Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina loosely translated as “sacred space” or “Sacred Temple.” In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect, which is vital for modern men to learn.
Before starting the Yoni Massage, create a space for the female receiver in which to relax, from which she can more easily enter a state of high arousal and experience great pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) will experience the joy of giving pleasure and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni Massage is also a form of safe sex and ideal activity to build trust and intimacy. Some tantric therapists help women break through sexual blocks or trauma via yoni massage
The goal of the Yoni massage is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant, welcome side effect. The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and massage the Yoni. From this perspective, both receiver and giver can relax, and need not worry about achieving any goal. When orgasm does occur, it is usually more expanded, more intense, more satisfying. It also benefits the giver to not expect anything in return, but simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself.
The Yoni Massage Unwrapped. Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the body, start with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver need to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing is vital!
Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to encourage the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching her Yoni. Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage.
Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other’s eyes as much as possible. The receiver should tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc. need to be increased or decreased. Limit your conversation and focus on the pleasurable sensation, too much talking will diminish the effect.
The Crown Jewel. The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function to the male’s glans, but four times more sensitive. The glans portion of the clitoris holds 8,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other structure in the human body. This hypersensitive node has only one purpose: pleasure. Nothing exceeds its ability to receive and transmit sensations of touch, pressure or vibration. The glans are the “crown jewel” of the clitoral system!
Stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to relax and breathe.
Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni(there is a reason for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra). Very gently explore and
massage the inside of the Yoni with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. It is important to remember that this is a massage in which you are nurturing and relaxing the Yoni. With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a “come hither” gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or sacred spot. She may feel the need to urinate, experience some discomfort or hopefully pleasure. Vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement. Move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. Insert the finger between your middle finger and pinky as well.
Most women have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time, be gentle. Use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris too. Another option is to insert the pinky of the right hand into her anus. In Tantra, when your pinky is gently massaging her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her Yoni and your thumb on her clitoris, you are holding one of the greatest cosmic mysteries in your hand.
Use your left hand to massage her breasts, abdomen or clitoris. To massage the clitoris, it’s best to use the thumb in an up/down motion, with the rest of the hand resting on, and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. Continue massaging, using varying speed, pressure and motion, all the while continuing to breathe deeply and looking into each other’s eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep breathing and be gentle. Some women have been sexually abused and need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner can be of immeasurable value to her. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra, this is called “riding the wave.”
In ending the massage, slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Let her relax and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you master the Yoni Massage, your sex life will greatly improve and you will learn a tremendous amount about feminine sexuality.