The word “intimacy” arises all the time when it comes to marriage and relationships. So, what’s intimacy?
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, intimacy is “something of a personal or private nature.”
Essentially, intimacy involves taking the risk to be close to someone and allowing that person to step inside your personal boundaries.
The dictionary definition is weak. Better intimacy means â€œin to me you seeâ€, a play on the word which really deciphers the meaning. You are allowing someone to look inside you to know the real you. Making the authentic you available for someone to know is a huge risk.
Intimacy means connecting with someone on every level; physical, emotional and spiritual. Physically, when we become intimate with someone there is some touch involved depending on the relationship we have with the person. Emotionally, our decision to be intimate with someone becomes a connection of our minds and our hearts. We share the stuff of who we are and find that we are stronger for it. Spiritually, as we connect to another person by uniting hearts, that part of intimacy is marvelously intense.
There is a connection with people on all three levels…physical, emotional and spiritual…once we become intimate with them, once we trust them enough to let them into our personal boundaries.
So how does all this relate to marital intimacy? Why is intimacy with your spouse important?
If a husband and wife have walls of mistrust, deception, a lack of forgiveness, and bitterness that keep them from allowing one another into their real presence they can not develop a deep intimacy. Their hurt may not even be toward their spouse, but if they have walls up to protect themselves from people getting close to them, it will damage their relationship with their spouse.
Intimacy is vital in marriage because it is the only way to receive the full blessings of a committed union. Ideally, marriage is an intensely wonderful, lifelong journey filled with passion and deep connection. This union can provide us with the most amazing human relationship imaginable, but it would be impossible without a willingness to pursue intimacy.
Intimacy is risky, especially at the beginning, but it gets easier over the years if you are committed to it. The more you do it, the more you see if your spouse can be trusted with your heart. And then, the more you deem as trustworthy, the more you are likely to continue sharing yourself with them.
Your commitment to intimacy is challenged when you have opened yourself up to your spouse and they have been deceitful. That’s when we ask, “Is intimacy worth the cost when I get so badly hurt?” Now if you married someone who has hurt you is it worth the work to push through the pain and come outon the other side. Many couples have worked through tough issues like infidelity and others could not. It really depends on the level of deceptionand the intent of the unfaithful partner. It’s a long, hard process, but it is possible with the right conditions. If the cheating partner is remorseless, just count your losses and make a graceful exit. If you have found yourself in such a situation, grace be upon you as you walk through this bitter season.
Overall though, intimacy between a committed sex partners has the greatest potential for a relationship that is deeply life-giving. Intimacy is worth the effort, worth the risk, worth the vulnerability. Intimacy is just one of the ingredients that make a marriage phenomenal.
Tantric intimacy is the most empowering way to manifest the ultimate relationship. You experience your partner in a way where you both are deeply connecting with the God Source within yourselves. Through Tantra, you are touching the highest loving presence that is fully connected to the entire Universe!
“The vision of Tantra is a direct approach towards God, towards Reality, towards that which is. It has no mediators, no middle man. Tantra says, God can ONLY be approached directly. There is no other way… God is immediacy. God is here now, already surrounding you.” ~Osho
Why explore TANTRA?
1. To Discover the Infinite Divine Being within your partner and yourself
2. To Explore a higher conscious state of connection with each other
3. To Feel unlimited acceptance and love with your partner
4. To Learn to communicate and listen fully with LOVE
5. To Discover how to create safety in letting yourself feel
6. To Experience a Kundalini rising in a Tantric Intimacy connection
7. To Create an unconditionally intimate loving relationship
Tantric Intimacy is a whole new way of being in the world. It is a safer way of living on Earth, with your partner in unity that creates a feeling of whole-ness, trust and tenderness. This is extremely contagious and causes all your relationships to develop and deepen in the most loving ways.
The fear of intimacy is what causes all of our relationships to struggle and suffer. Once you learn a few simple techniques, ancient knowledge and secrets to creating intimacy, you will easily be able to manifest successful loving relationships with anyone you desire.
Why is Intimacy so important? Intimacy allows us to love life deeply. Yet many are deeply afraid to be seen, heard and acknowledged in this world. Intimacy melts all fear and frees you from the judgments of others. It liberates you completely from your constricted, restricted, contracted self.
Tantra is the highest path to spiritual awakening.
Intimacy happens when we allow the other to see into us (into-me-you-see = intimacy). Shifting into this thinking starts you on the path, creating experiences of letting go of ego-protection-control and receiving what we all desire yet often pretend we don’t need…LOVE.
Most Western people were conditioned to behave in a strong, tough manner when you needed a hug. We were unconsciously taught to be colder and not to “need” an emotionally intimate connection. Intimacy channels all the warmth and connection you’ll ever need. It is a personal mirror and deeper connection with The Universal Source. The more we open to others, the farther we can look and see our true self.
Through ancient techniques in Tantra, you learn how to master your mind, body and emotions in life. You will then be able to create the profound connection and spiritual partnership you’ve always craved.
There is NO limit how juicy your relationships can become!
If you are alone, or just feel alone, you may just be repressing intimacy. If you don’t have a partner, you can manifest one. Our session teach you how attract him/her into your life quickly! Make the decision that you are manifesting your ideal mate! The Tantric path will be the new container.
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