Tantric Self-Care for Men

“Tantrics go naked, meditate on death next to corpses or in graveyards, or live hidden in the normality of the everyday world, but all the time they use the senses to transcend the senses. Tantra’s contemplative practices are intended to raise a vital energy in the etheric body that is an envelope around the physical body.”~William Irwin Thompson

The Cosmos is like the sky…clouds come and go, but the sky remains. The cosmos is unchanging. It takes countless forms. To feel disturbed about the numerous clouds in the sky today is nonsensical because whatever is in the sky will change. That’s the nature of the sky. One day it’s clear, the next day it’s cloudy. One day it rains, the next day it snows, the next day the brilliant sun emerges to warm our wounded spirits.

When your mood becomes heavy and you feel like shutting down, it’s time to shake things up and start moving your body.

At times, you may experience wonderful changes in your life, as you move into a new home, embrace a career change, marry your beloved, take on a closer relationship with your adult children, give birth to a new business venture, and take positive steps towards healing your body. In the midst of all this, your spirit has been soaring most of the time. However, there are times when even a man who has been practicing tantra can feel bitter or angry, and is easily triggered by those around him, especially by his closest family and friends.

These negative feelings come from old limiting patterns of thoughts and behaviour that you are probably ready to release; however, the letting go proces is painful at times and you can get stuck.  When this happens, dancing may be the best remedy. Yes, dancing! Put on some of your favourite instrumental music and let your powerful male body move to the groove and express all those pent-up feelings. Afterwards, pamper yourself with a hot bubble bath, followed by some stretching, resting, and  quiet meditation.  Then, go and curl up on the couch with that fantastic book you bought last month but have been too busy to read.

This wonderful self-nurturing will refresh and revitalize your body, mind and spirit, so you are ready to move back into your life again.  Your male and female energies are fully integrated, so you can better connect to others, enjoy your life, and surmount the daily grind.

Tantra Bliss Defined…a phenomenal formula!

The Tantra Bliss Formula was developed by Bodhi Avinasha, Founder of Tantrika International and author of  Jewel in the Lotus &  The Ipsalu Formula. Bodhi has been teaching Tantric Yoga throughout the world since 1986.

A 5-step Daily Practice, the Tantra Bliss Formula stimulates your creativity, while helping you unite body, mind and spirit. By bringing you to a higher state of consciousness, it helps you transcend illusion and see what is truly real. It takes you from stillness and numbness to a state of Bliss.

1. Activate Your Body’s Energy: To help alleviate the numbness and begin your journey to a state of bliss, the energy of the body must be awakened. Ways of accomplishing this include dancing or doing the Shakti Shake.

2.  Still Your Mind: The next step toward a state of bliss is to suspend your thoughts (stop thinking). Meditation, mantras and breathing exercises help you clear your mind of thoughts of the mundane, illusory world.

3.  Arouse Your Sexual Energy: This unblocks the circulation of kundalini energy, helping you achieve a higher state of consciousness.
4.  Transmute Your Passion: This process involves converting the raw power of sexual energy into spiritual energy. This helps draw the kundalini energy from the lower chakras to the higher ones.
5.  Enjoy Your Bliss: Once you achieve a state of bliss, bask in it for a while! Dance around in the warm sunlight or revel in feeling cool raindrops on your face.

 

Create the Ideal Mood for Tantric Couples Massage

Clearly, a tantric massage is meant to be relaxing, washing away all tension, so it’s vital to establish the right mood.

Ideally, one dims the lights to create a soothing mood.

Ambient Music or nature sounds add a deeply relaxing atmosphere to enhance the whole experience.

Soothing scents can add a beautiful  accent to relaxation.
Aromatherapy has proven benefits, so light a scented candle or burn some incense.
Different aromas bring on different physical and mental reactions …peppermint, citrus and cinnamon produce a more energetic response in the body, while patchouli, bergamot, lavender and ylang-ylang are more relaxing.
Just be sure that competing scents are not being used!
Temperature is also important as the skin is exposed most of the time during a massage.

A warmer than normal temperature helps to avoid chills and relax muscles.
Along these same lines, a warm shower or bath before the massage can make one’s massage much more effective by loosening muscles and ligaments.

Use a high-quality organic massage oil.  The Body Shoppe carries a number of excellent massage oil products for home use.

Sensational Tantric Touch Massage for Couples

Mental preparation is also key…

 

If possible, try to sit quietly in your Sacred Space and meditate for a bit before the massage session starts.

Clearing the mind helps you focus on breath and sensation, which will intensify the erotic experience.

This is akin to taking a warm shower by shedding your physical tension.

Set an intention for your  session and discuss any specific techniques you would like to use.

For a successful outcome, both partners  must feel comfortable with each other, and trust in the other’s sincere desire to connect.

A brief discussion before the session is crucial, as well as ongoing, open, honest communication during the session itself.

Tantric Massage is a fabulous gift to give your beloved’s body, mind and spirit.

In addition to the multiple physical benefits, tantric massage can provide a burst of creative energy, stimulating your intellect, deepening your intimacy with your beloved while enhancing your own sensuality.


 

Tantra & Sexual Education…First Sexual Encounters Affect Body Image

When a guy loses his virginity, he feels like a stud...not so for girls. A recent study examined 100 college students over a 4-year period who were virgins at the start of college, and how their perspective of their own bodies changed after sex.

 

Sex is tricky!   You are at your most intimate in that moment. Guys report feeling “hotter” because sex is seen as a rite of passage into masculinity.   So, they feel like they’ve finally done it…now they are men!   On the other hand, girls may feel uneasy, guilty and even ‘slutty’. This may even unleash self-esteem and body image issues that have been bubbling below the surface for these insecure, young women.

Other Questions Arise…

Had these adolescents been sexually active at all?

What happens if your first sexual encounter is with a same sex partner?

What were the circumstances of the event?

How does someone respond if they lose their virginity LATER in life?

It might be interesting to study the physiological impact sex has over the course of all four years of college, the “then” and “now” of sex and body perspective.

When it comes to actually getting busy, women  tend to critically evaluate their bodies in terms of the worshipped feminine ideal.   This is called sexual spectatoring, i.e. seeing yourself from the outside rather than focusing on and enjoying the sex you are having in the present moment.

Indeed, society is constantly   bombarded with what media and entertainment deem as “hot or not” and now women are behind the camera comparing and scrutinizing their own bodies. Negative outcomes exist for boys too; they begin to get riskier and riskier the more sex they have. This could lead to multiple sexual partners and potential STDs.

One way to alleviate such negative outcomes is to develop a sex education class that addresses the nitty-gritty of these issues. Close to 20% of the population struggles with body dysmorphic disorder, so dealing with it earlier is a good idea.

As a woman ages, her body image get better, but sadly a man’s get worse. Tantra is something that makes everyone feel good about themselves and their sex lives.   After all,Tantric sex is good for you on all levels…body, mind and spirit.

Tantra Coaching Sessions for Individuals…The practice of Tantra is not strictly for those in a relationship, and the words ‘single’ and ‘happy’ are not mutually exclusive. The ancient Tantrikas spent years in solo preparation to prepare for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine.

There is much that you can learn and open to on your own. Indeed, some things require a time of solitude to blossom and mature, and you can always open to the Divine, which is certainly not a blessing reserved for those  in a relationship.

Individual sessions are useful in a variety of ways: Receiving information, learning practices, becoming more at home in your body, finding support to sort through emotions with regard to a recently ended relationship, or learning how to attract a well matched partner.

Individual sessions are also beneficial to persons who are already in a committed relationship but are unable to bring their partner. They can take many useful exercises and insights home with them to their loved one.

What happens in an individual session depends entirely on what an individual needs to progress toward sexual and emotional fulfilment and Divine love. Although I may offer experiential exercises and meditations during these sessions, my approach in working with individuals is not always hands on.  The unique needs of my client will always dictate the approach required.

For more information on Tantric Sex Education Classes, call Devi at 613 878-8179.