When I say that I work as a sex coach, some find it a bit confusing.
Often I hear, “So you must be a sex worker?” Not exactly. “So, what is it then that you do?”
The recent film, “The Sessions” features Helen Hunt and John Hawkes as a sex surrogate and her disabled client.
Sex coaches act as educators because most North Americans have received a zero to sub-standard sex education. People need to learn the vital sexual information that nobody ever taught them from a compassionate professional who understands sex and will not pontificate on a client’s sexual practices. That job is for a priest, not a sex coach! Sex coaching differs from therapy as it does not focus as much on healing past wounds as much as it does about creating your life in the present.
Ottawa’s Divine Tantric Touch Massage is a highly sought after sensual experience appreciated by a growing host of exultant clients. Mere words fail to describe the depth and pleasure of this ecstatic, erotic experience. Just imagine profound relaxation amplified and spiced up by a variety of delicious erotic elements! Erotic massage is a door to new sensual dimensions, to ever higher and deeper levels of epicurean indulgence.
Tantra massage gained its popularity for its ability to deeply relax the body, releasing all the accumulated stress and strain of modern life, unblocking the body’s energy flow and gently calming the mind. Thus, this sexually rewarding massage technique also possesses tremendous healing, restorative and rejuvenating benefits.
The Tantra Bliss Formula was developed by Bodhi Avinasha, Founder of Tantrika International and author of Jewel in the Lotus & The Ipsalu Formula. Bodhi has been teaching Tantric Yoga throughout the world since 1986.
A 5-step Daily Practice, the Tantra Bliss Formula stimulates your creativity, while helping you unite body, mind and spirit. By bringing you to a higher state of consciousness, it helps you transcend illusion and see what is truly real. It takes you from stillness and numbness to a state of Bliss.
1. Activate Your Body’s Energy: To help alleviate the numbness and begin your journey to a state of bliss, the energy of the body must be awakened. Ways of accomplishing this include dancing or doing the Shakti Shake.
2. Still Your Mind: The next step toward a state of bliss is to suspend your thoughts (stop thinking). Meditation, mantras and breathing exercises help you clear your mind of thoughts of the mundane, illusory world.
3. Arouse Your Sexual Energy: This unblocks the circulation of kundalini energy, helping you achieve a higher state of consciousness.
4. Transmute Your Passion: This process involves converting the raw power of sexual energy into spiritual energy. This helps draw the kundalini energy from the lower chakras to the higher ones.
5. Enjoy Your Bliss: Once you achieve a state of bliss, bask in it for a while! Dance around in the warm sunlight or revel in feeling cool raindrops on your face.
Sex is tricky! You are at your most intimate in that moment. Guys report feeling â€œhotterâ€ because sex is seen as a rite of passage into masculinity. So, they feel like they’ve finally done itâ€¦now they are men! On the other hand, girls may feel uneasy, guilty and even ‘slutty’. This may even unleash self-esteem and body image issues that have been bubbling below the surface for these insecure, young women.
Other Questions Arise…
Had these adolescents been sexually active at all?
What happens if your first sexual encounter is with a same sex partner?
What were the circumstances of the event?
How does someone respond if they lose their virginity LATER in life?
It might be interesting to study the physiological impact sex has over the course of all four years of college, the â€œthenâ€ and â€œnowâ€ of sex and body perspective.
When it comes to actually getting busy, women tend to critically evaluate their bodies in terms of the worshipped feminine ideal. This is called sexual spectatoring, i.e. seeing yourself from the outside rather than focusing on and enjoying the sex you are having in the present moment.
Indeed, society is constantly bombarded with what media and entertainment deem as â€œhot or notâ€ and now women are behind the camera comparing and scrutinizing their own bodies. Negative outcomes exist for boys too; they begin to get riskier and riskier the more sex they have. This could lead to multiple sexual partners and potential STDs.
One way to alleviate such negative outcomes is to develop a sex education class that addresses the nitty-gritty of these issues. Close to 20% of the population struggles with body dysmorphic disorder, so dealing with it earlier is a good idea.
As a woman ages, her body image get better, but sadly a man’s get worse. Tantra is something that makes everyone feel good about themselves and their sex lives. After all,Tantric sex is good for you on all levels…body, mind and spirit.
Tantra Coaching Sessions for Individuals…The practice of Tantra is not strictly for those in a relationship, and the words ‘single’ and ‘happy’ are not mutually exclusive. The ancient Tantrikas spent years in solo preparation to prepare for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine.
There is much that you can learn and open to on your own. Indeed, some things require a time of solitude to blossom and mature, and you can always open to the Divine, which is certainly not a blessing reserved for those in a relationship.
Individual sessions are useful in a variety of ways: Receiving information, learning practices, becoming more at home in your body, finding support to sort through emotions with regard to a recently ended relationship, or learning how to attract a well matched partner.
Individual sessions are also beneficial to persons who are already in a committed relationship but are unable to bring their partner. They can take many useful exercises and insights home with them to their loved one.
What happens in an individual session depends entirely on what an individual needs to progress toward sexual and emotional fulfilment and Divine love. Although I may offer experiential exercises and meditations during these sessions, my approach in working with individuals is not always hands on. The unique needs of my client will always dictate the approach required.
For more information on Tantric Sex Education Classes, call Deviat 613 878-8179.