Gross misuses of the term tantric massage abound today as it conjures up a ‘happy-ending’ massage or crass sexual release.
However, the role of massage in Tantra runs much deeper. A massage for mere sexual pleasure is best called an erotic massage, leaving the term tantra massage to encompass another realm of experience and expertise. Continue reading “Tantric Massage Revealed”
Women, did you know that you can transform any male into your love servant?
After six years of marriage and two children, I would like to become more dominant in the bedroom but my 37-year-old husband won’t submit to me. He claims that it that it would feel weird and unnatural for him to do so. Moreover, he says that he doubts if he would enjoy it. Is there anything I can do or should I just give up the idea?”
Western sex practices yield an average of about 10 minutes of bliss, according to a recent study.
Yet, in India and the Far East, Tantric sex is practiced as a form of spirituality, enveloping its practitioners in hours-long ecstasy.
Why not spend a few delicious hours riding the wave, instead of 10 minutes?
Yet, tantra is far more than just drawing out the coitus process.
Studies show couples struggle to reconcile their high sexual expectations with an inability to express their sexual needs.
When I say that I work as a sex coach, some find it a bit confusing.
Often I hear, “So you must be a sex worker?” Not exactly. “So, what is it then that you do?”
The recent film, “The Sessions” features Helen Hunt and John Hawkes as a sex surrogate and her disabled client.
Sex coaching differs from therapy as it does not focus as much on healing past wounds as much as it does about creating your life in the present.
Om is a mantra or vibration, chanted at the beginning and end of yoga sessions.
It is known as the ‘monarch of all mantras’ since all mantras originate from it. It prefixes some mantras and represents the Supreme God Principle (Parabrahman).
Coming from the Hindu Yoga tradition, the mantra is deemed to have high spiritual and creative powers. That said, anyone can recite this mantra. It’s both a sound and a symbol rich in meaning and depth. When pronounced correctly, it is actually AUM.
- 1st syllable is A, pronounced as a prolonged “awe.” The sound starts at the back of your throat and you stretch it out. You start feeling your solar plexus and chest vibrate.
- 2nd syllable is U, pronounced as a prolonged â€œoo,â€ with the sound gradually rolling forward along your upper palate. You feel your throat vibrate.
- 3rd syllable is M, pronounced as a prolonged â€œmmmmâ€ with your front teeth gently touching. You now start to feel the top of your vibrate.
- 4th syllable is the deep silence of the Infinite. As intelligence rises from the deep silence, you have to merge your chant from the â€˜M’ to the deep silence.
â€œTantrics go naked, meditate on death next to corpses or in graveyards, or live hidden in the normality of the everyday world, but all the time they use the senses to transcend the senses. Tantra’s contemplative practices are intended to raise a vital energy in the etheric body that is an envelope around the physical body.â€~William Irwin Thompson
The Cosmos is like the sky…clouds come and go, but the sky remains. The cosmos is unchanging. It takes countless forms. To feel disturbed about the numerous clouds in the sky today is nonsensical because whatever is in the sky will change. That’s the nature of the sky. One day it’s clear, the next day it’s cloudy. One day it rains, the next day it snows, the next day the brilliant sun emerges to warm our wounded spirits.
At times, you may experience wonderful changes in your life, as you move into a new home, embrace a career change, marry your beloved, take on a closer relationship with your adult children, give birth to a new business venture, and take positive steps towards healing your body. In the midst of all this, your spirit has been soaring most of the time. However, there are times when even a man who has been practicing tantra can feel bitter or angry, and is easily triggered by those around him, especially by his closest family and friends.
These negative feelings come from old limiting patterns of thoughts and behaviour that you are probably ready to release; however, the letting go proces is painful at times and you can get stuck. When this happens, dancing may be the best remedy. Yes, dancing! Put on some of your favourite instrumental music and let your powerful male body move to the groove and express all those pent-up feelings. Afterwards, pamper yourself with a hot bubble bath, followed by some stretching, resting, and quiet meditation. Then, go and curl up on the couch with that fantastic book you bought last month but have been too busy to read.
This wonderful self-nurturing will refresh and revitalize your body, mind and spirit, so you are ready to move back into your life again. Your male and female energies are fully integrated, so you can better connect to others, enjoy your life, and surmount the daily grind.
The Tantra Bliss Formula was developed by Bodhi Avinasha, Founder of Tantrika International and author of Jewel in the Lotus & The Ipsalu Formula. Bodhi has been teaching Tantric Yoga throughout the world since 1986.
A 5-step Daily Practice, the Tantra Bliss Formula stimulates your creativity, while helping you unite body, mind and spirit. By bringing you to a higher state of consciousness, it helps you transcend illusion and see what is truly real. It takes you from stillness and numbness to a state of Bliss.
1. Activate Your Body’s Energy: To help alleviate the numbness and begin your journey to a state of bliss, the energy of the body must be awakened. Ways of accomplishing this include dancing or doing the Shakti Shake.
2. Still Your Mind: The next step toward a state of bliss is to suspend your thoughts (stop thinking). Meditation, mantras and breathing exercises help you clear your mind of thoughts of the mundane, illusory world.
Sex is tricky! You are at your most intimate in that moment. Guys report feeling â€œhotterâ€ because sex is seen as a rite of passage into masculinity. So, they feel like they’ve finally done itâ€¦now they are men! On the other hand, girls may feel uneasy, guilty and even ‘slutty’. This may even unleash self-esteem and body image issues that have been bubbling below the surface for these insecure, young women.
Other Questions Arise…
Had these adolescents been sexually active at all?
What happens if your first sexual encounter is with a same sex partner?
What were the circumstances of the event?
How does someone respond if they lose their virginity LATER in life?
It might be interesting to study the physiological impact sex has over the course of all four years of college, the â€œthenâ€ and â€œnowâ€ of sex and body perspective.
When it comes to actually getting busy, women tend to critically evaluate their bodies in terms of the worshipped feminine ideal. This is called sexual spectatoring, i.e. seeing yourself from the outside rather than focusing on and enjoying the sex you are having in the present moment.
Indeed, society is constantly bombarded with what media and entertainment deem as â€œhot or notâ€ and now women are behind the camera comparing and scrutinizing their own bodies. Negative outcomes exist for boys too; they begin to get riskier and riskier the more sex they have. This could lead to multiple sexual partners and potential STDs.
One way to alleviate such negative outcomes is to develop a sex education class that addresses the nitty-gritty of these issues. Close to 20% of the population struggles with body dysmorphic disorder, so dealing with it earlier is a good idea.
As a woman ages, her body image get better, but sadly a man’s get worse. Tantra is something that makes everyone feel good about themselves and their sex lives. After all,Tantric sex is good for you on all levels…body, mind and spirit.
Tantra Coaching Sessions for Individuals…The practice of Tantra is not strictly for those in a relationship, and the words ‘single’ and ‘happy’ are not mutually exclusive. The ancient Tantrikas spent years in solo preparation to prepare for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine.
There is much that you can learn and open to on your own. Indeed, some things require a time of solitude to blossom and mature, and you can always open to the Divine, which is certainly not a blessing reserved for those in a relationship.
Individual sessions are useful in a variety of ways: Receiving information, learning practices, becoming more at home in your body, finding support to sort through emotions with regard to a recently ended relationship, or learning how to attract a well matched partner.
Individual sessions are also beneficial to persons who are already in a committed relationship but are unable to bring their partner. They can take many useful exercises and insights home with them to their loved one.
What happens in an individual session depends entirely on what an individual needs to progress toward sexual and emotional fulfilment and Divine love. Although I may offer experiential exercises and meditations during these sessions, my approach in working with individuals is not always hands on. The unique needs of my client will always dictate the approach required.
For more information on Tantric Sex Education Classes, call Devi at 613 878-8179.