Tantric Massage Revealed

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Gross misuses of the term tantric massage abound today as it conjures up a ‘happy-ending’ massage or crass sexual release.
However, the role of massage in Tantra runs much deeper. A massage for mere sexual pleasure is best called an erotic massage, leaving the term tantra massage to encompass another realm of experience and expertise. Continue reading “Tantric Massage Revealed”

Riding the Edge: Tantric Male Lingam Massage

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Men, I invite you to journey into electric sexual heights as you hover in a profound state of orgasmic bliss.
During Riding the Edge, you will be able to float erotically yet carefree for extended periods, totally pampered at the hands of a beautiful, blonde, experienced, world-class Dakini.
Your sexual energy will tingle and course throughout your entire body, nose to toes, and all parts in between.
Now is the time to discover something better then sex! Continue reading “Riding the Edge: Tantric Male Lingam Massage”

Sexual Healing and Tantric Transformation for Singles and Couples

Escape, Relax and UnwindSacred sexuality teachings are key for transformational healing.
Restoring the Divine Feminine to its rightful place of sacred honour can eviscerate this powerful energy’s cultural distortions.
This rejuvenation thrives in each female who evokes more of this divinity to fuel their lives.
This life force expresses as sensuality, vitality and sexuality, akin to a spiritual river coursing throughout your being and flowing slowly into the world.
This graceful current has been so misunderstood that many women cannot enjoy or embody its full blessings. Continue reading “Sexual Healing and Tantric Transformation for Singles and Couples”

Power Exchange Games 101 How to be a Dominant Diva Dark Tantra Secrets

Women, did you know that you can transform  any male into your love servant?

“Dear Dakini Devi Bliss,

After six years of marriage and two children, I would like to become more dominant in the bedroom but my 37-year-old husband won’t submit to me. He claims that it that it would feel weird and unnatural for him to do so. Moreover, he says that he doubts if he would enjoy it. Is there anything I can do or should I just give up the idea?”
Thanks,

Krista
 

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Dark Tantra for Couples The Play-at-Home Version

 

Clearly, you have heard about the now infamous novel Fifty Shades of Grey. Perhaps you wonder if  BDSM requires a large financial outlay. Yes, leather corsets and horse whips are well worth their price tag but if you’re just getting into it, try BDSM on for size first. The Dark Tantra version is milder and more appropriate for beginners.

Besides, it costs a lot less!
First of all, you and your partner must mutually decide that you are up to trying some BDSM.

 

Does the notion of being tied up get both of you in a hot, raunchy mood?

Can you almost feel that teasing flogger along your thighs leaving you breathless? Continue reading “Dark Tantra for Couples The Play-at-Home Version”

Tantric Sexercises The Ultimate Workout for HIm and Her

 

Western sex practices yield an average of about 10 minutes of bliss, according to a recent study.

Yet, in India and the Far East, Tantric sex is practiced as a form of spirituality, enveloping its practitioners in hours-long ecstasy.

Why not spend a few delicious hours riding the wave, instead of 10 minutes?

Yet, tantra is far more than just drawing out the coitus process.

Studies show couples struggle to reconcile their high sexual expectations with an inability to express their sexual needs.

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Aum, The Monarch of All Mantras

Om is a  mantra  or vibration, chanted at the beginning and end of yoga sessions.

It is known as  the ‘monarch of all  mantras’ since all  mantras  originate from it. It prefixes some  mantras and  represents the Supreme God Principle (Parabrahman).

Coming from the Hindu Yoga tradition, the mantra is deemed to have high spiritual and creative powers. That said, anyone can recite this mantra. It’s both a sound and a symbol rich in meaning and depth. When pronounced correctly, it is actually AUM.

Aum actually consists of four (4) syllables: A, U, M, and the silent syllable.
  • 1st syllable is A, pronounced as a prolonged “awe.” The sound starts at the back of your throat and you stretch it out. You start feeling your solar plexus and chest vibrate.
  • 2nd syllable is U, pronounced as a prolonged “oo,” with the sound gradually rolling forward along your upper palate. You feel your throat vibrate.
  • 3rd syllable is M, pronounced as a prolonged “mmmm” with your front teeth gently touching. You now start to feel the top of your vibrate.
  • 4th syllable is the deep silence of the Infinite. As intelligence rises from the deep silence, you have to merge your chant from the ‘M’ to the deep silence.
Symbolically, the three (3) letters embody the divine energy (Shakti) and its three (3) main characteristics…creation, preservation and liberation.
Why do we chant Aum?
Everything in the Cosmos pulsates and vibrates; nothing really stands still! The sound Om, when chanted, vibrates at a frequency of 432 Hz, the same frequency found throughout everything in nature.
As such, AUM is the basic sound of the universe.  Thus, by chanting it, we are symbolically and physically tuning into that sound,acknowledging our connection to all other living beings, nature and the universe.
In addition, the vibrations and rhythmic pronunciation also have a physical affect on the body by slowing down our nervous system and calming the mind similar to  meditation. When your mind is relaxed, your blood pressure decreases and ultimately your heart health improves.
Finally, it’s a way to delineate the time of our practice from the rest of our day and signify that this special time is one in which we care for ourselves and practice being mindful
All in all, beginning and ending your yoga practice with AUM helps you connects to your practice in a much deeper way than with physical  postures alone.

 

Tantric Self-Care for Men

“Tantrics go naked, meditate on death next to corpses or in graveyards, or live hidden in the normality of the everyday world, but all the time they use the senses to transcend the senses. Tantra’s contemplative practices are intended to raise a vital energy in the etheric body that is an envelope around the physical body.”~William Irwin Thompson

The Cosmos is like the sky…clouds come and go, but the sky remains. The cosmos is unchanging. It takes countless forms. To feel disturbed about the numerous clouds in the sky today is nonsensical because whatever is in the sky will change. That’s the nature of the sky. One day it’s clear, the next day it’s cloudy. One day it rains, the next day it snows, the next day the brilliant sun emerges to warm our wounded spirits.

When your mood becomes heavy and you feel like shutting down, it’s time to shake things up and start moving your body.

At times, you may experience wonderful changes in your life, as you move into a new home, embrace a career change, marry your beloved, take on a closer relationship with your adult children, give birth to a new business venture, and take positive steps towards healing your body. In the midst of all this, your spirit has been soaring most of the time. However, there are times when even a man who has been practicing tantra can feel bitter or angry, and is easily triggered by those around him, especially by his closest family and friends.

These negative feelings come from old limiting patterns of thoughts and behaviour that you are probably ready to release; however, the letting go proces is painful at times and you can get stuck.  When this happens, dancing may be the best remedy. Yes, dancing! Put on some of your favourite instrumental music and let your powerful male body move to the groove and express all those pent-up feelings. Afterwards, pamper yourself with a hot bubble bath, followed by some stretching, resting, and  quiet meditation.  Then, go and curl up on the couch with that fantastic book you bought last month but have been too busy to read.

This wonderful self-nurturing will refresh and revitalize your body, mind and spirit, so you are ready to move back into your life again.  Your male and female energies are fully integrated, so you can better connect to others, enjoy your life, and surmount the daily grind.

Tantra Bliss Defined…a phenomenal formula!

The Tantra Bliss Formula was developed by Bodhi Avinasha, Founder of Tantrika International and author of  Jewel in the Lotus &  The Ipsalu Formula. Bodhi has been teaching Tantric Yoga throughout the world since 1986.

A 5-step Daily Practice, the Tantra Bliss Formula stimulates your creativity, while helping you unite body, mind and spirit. By bringing you to a higher state of consciousness, it helps you transcend illusion and see what is truly real. It takes you from stillness and numbness to a state of Bliss.

1. Activate Your Body’s Energy: To help alleviate the numbness and begin your journey to a state of bliss, the energy of the body must be awakened. Ways of accomplishing this include dancing or doing the Shakti Shake.

2.  Still Your Mind: The next step toward a state of bliss is to suspend your thoughts (stop thinking). Meditation, mantras and breathing exercises help you clear your mind of thoughts of the mundane, illusory world.

3.  Arouse Your Sexual Energy: This unblocks the circulation of kundalini energy, helping you achieve a higher state of consciousness.
4.  Transmute Your Passion: This process involves converting the raw power of sexual energy into spiritual energy. This helps draw the kundalini energy from the lower chakras to the higher ones.
5.  Enjoy Your Bliss: Once you achieve a state of bliss, bask in it for a while! Dance around in the warm sunlight or revel in feeling cool raindrops on your face.

 

Create the Ideal Mood for Tantric Couples Massage

Clearly, a tantric massage is meant to be relaxing, washing away all tension, so it’s vital to establish the right mood.

Ideally, one dims the lights to create a soothing mood.

Ambient Music or nature sounds add a deeply relaxing atmosphere to enhance the whole experience.

Soothing scents can add a beautiful  accent to relaxation.
Aromatherapy has proven benefits, so light a scented candle or burn some incense.
Different aromas bring on different physical and mental reactions …peppermint, citrus and cinnamon produce a more energetic response in the body, while patchouli, bergamot, lavender and ylang-ylang are more relaxing.
Just be sure that competing scents are not being used!
Temperature is also important as the skin is exposed most of the time during a massage.

A warmer than normal temperature helps to avoid chills and relax muscles.
Along these same lines, a warm shower or bath before the massage can make one’s massage much more effective by loosening muscles and ligaments.

Use a high-quality organic massage oil.  The Body Shoppe carries a number of excellent massage oil products for home use.

Sensational Tantric Touch Massage for Couples

Mental preparation is also key…

 

If possible, try to sit quietly in your Sacred Space and meditate for a bit before the massage session starts.

Clearing the mind helps you focus on breath and sensation, which will intensify the erotic experience.

This is akin to taking a warm shower by shedding your physical tension.

Set an intention for your  session and discuss any specific techniques you would like to use.

For a successful outcome, both partners  must feel comfortable with each other, and trust in the other’s sincere desire to connect.

A brief discussion before the session is crucial, as well as ongoing, open, honest communication during the session itself.

Tantric Massage is a fabulous gift to give your beloved’s body, mind and spirit.

In addition to the multiple physical benefits, tantric massage can provide a burst of creative energy, stimulating your intellect, deepening your intimacy with your beloved while enhancing your own sensuality.


 

Preparing Yourself for a Tantra Session

Spiritual, mental and physical preparation is a key component of Tantra.

The experience is greatly enhanced if you enter the session with an open heart, conscious awareness and an available body. Whether consciously or unconsciously, the preparation begins before your scheduled appointment. You should establish a clear intention for the upcoming Tantric session. Remember that the path of Tantra is spiritual as well as sensual. Tantra explores our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation. The act of setting your intention creates an opening for the session to unfold naturally and in harmony with the physical, erotic and cosmic energies contained within you. You will want to prepare your mind, body and spirit for the experience. For a first-time receiver, the act of opening all parts of your body – including the most sacred areas – to exploration and stimulation is a life-altering experience.

For your Tantric Session, remember the following:

  • This is a date with yourself.
  • Make space and time for yourself.
  • You don’t have to please anyone but yourself.
  • Don’t have any preoccupation, appointments close to the session.
  • After the session, you may want to relax and may be even sleep.
  • Please wear lightly perfumed sprays, colognes, or lotions if you wish.
  • No cell phones, no distractions, have your mind free completely of any worries.
  • Move with your breath, so sensations and excitement can circulate into the whole body.

NOTE: When you are at the point of experiencing Full Body Orgasm (not ejaculation) – Visualize your desires, what you want to change in your life and what you truly want, such as

  • achieving more harmony
  • enjoying more love and deeper intimacy
  • becoming a multi-orgasmic woman or man
  • Having greater overall energy
  • Tapping into your Sensual/Spiritual Nature

Then, when you release at that orgasmic moment, your visualizations imprint onto your subconscious and into the universe and it returns back into your reality (Law of Attraction).

Relax and be open!

Simply imagine that you are receiving an infinite love from the universe.

When you are nearing Full Body Orgasm (energetic not ejaculation) always  breathe deeply. If anything is blocking your mind, it will go away.

You are in safe, loving, expert hands, so just keep breathing and any built up pressure or discomfort build up will go away.

An intensely pleasurable experience, it is beautiful, erotic and sensuous…all at once.

Close your eyes and feel the inner bliss transporting into an  unimaginable world of ecstasy.

To really understand tantra, you need to be turning yourself on. Tantra is something you get for your own self-satisfaction to add to your life, like yoga, meditation or working out.  You learn to get in touch with your inner sexuality. You can enjoy exploring some erogenous zones, that you never examined before or maybe were too shy to even think about it.

When practicing G-spot, Prostate healing or Body Energetic Touch, breathe deeply.   Let your partner know that you are enjoying the sensations running through your body.

Push your muscles, as in the PC MUSCLE exercises which I teach.

Let go of the flow,  release your muscles, clear your mind and enjoy the pleasures of your G-spot or Prostate Healing or Body Energetic Touch.

If you feel discomfort, hold on for a few minutes, after that it is pure ecstasy.

Practice, practice tantra once a week in your life or as often your lifestyle permits. It will change your life; you will feel light, ecstatic and happy. You will see life anew through fresh, loving eyes.


 

 

Tantra & Sexual Education…First Sexual Encounters Affect Body Image

When a guy loses his virginity, he feels like a stud...not so for girls. A recent study examined 100 college students over a 4-year period who were virgins at the start of college, and how their perspective of their own bodies changed after sex.

 

Sex is tricky!   You are at your most intimate in that moment. Guys report feeling “hotter” because sex is seen as a rite of passage into masculinity.   So, they feel like they’ve finally done it…now they are men!   On the other hand, girls may feel uneasy, guilty and even ‘slutty’. This may even unleash self-esteem and body image issues that have been bubbling below the surface for these insecure, young women.

Other Questions Arise…

Had these adolescents been sexually active at all?

What happens if your first sexual encounter is with a same sex partner?

What were the circumstances of the event?

How does someone respond if they lose their virginity LATER in life?

It might be interesting to study the physiological impact sex has over the course of all four years of college, the “then” and “now” of sex and body perspective.

When it comes to actually getting busy, women  tend to critically evaluate their bodies in terms of the worshipped feminine ideal.   This is called sexual spectatoring, i.e. seeing yourself from the outside rather than focusing on and enjoying the sex you are having in the present moment.

Indeed, society is constantly   bombarded with what media and entertainment deem as “hot or not” and now women are behind the camera comparing and scrutinizing their own bodies. Negative outcomes exist for boys too; they begin to get riskier and riskier the more sex they have. This could lead to multiple sexual partners and potential STDs.

One way to alleviate such negative outcomes is to develop a sex education class that addresses the nitty-gritty of these issues. Close to 20% of the population struggles with body dysmorphic disorder, so dealing with it earlier is a good idea.

As a woman ages, her body image get better, but sadly a man’s get worse. Tantra is something that makes everyone feel good about themselves and their sex lives.   After all,Tantric sex is good for you on all levels…body, mind and spirit.

Tantra Coaching Sessions for Individuals…The practice of Tantra is not strictly for those in a relationship, and the words ‘single’ and ‘happy’ are not mutually exclusive. The ancient Tantrikas spent years in solo preparation to prepare for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine.

There is much that you can learn and open to on your own. Indeed, some things require a time of solitude to blossom and mature, and you can always open to the Divine, which is certainly not a blessing reserved for those  in a relationship.

Individual sessions are useful in a variety of ways: Receiving information, learning practices, becoming more at home in your body, finding support to sort through emotions with regard to a recently ended relationship, or learning how to attract a well matched partner.

Individual sessions are also beneficial to persons who are already in a committed relationship but are unable to bring their partner. They can take many useful exercises and insights home with them to their loved one.

What happens in an individual session depends entirely on what an individual needs to progress toward sexual and emotional fulfilment and Divine love. Although I may offer experiential exercises and meditations during these sessions, my approach in working with individuals is not always hands on.  The unique needs of my client will always dictate the approach required.

For more information on Tantric Sex Education Classes, call Devi at 613 878-8179.

 

 

HOW TO DO TANTRIC YONI MASSAGE

Massaging the vagina called  the Yoni (Sanskrit  word meaning Sacred Space or Sacred Temple) is an ancient Tantra sex ritual.  The Yoni is traditionally seen from a perspective of love and respect.

The Yoni Massage creates a safe space for the woman to relax and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. This massage is also a way to effectively treat a woman for sexual blocks, traumas or fear of sex. Her partner (the giver) enjoys the satisfaction of being of service and witnessing a different area of Tantra sex. The Yoni Massage is also a form of safer sex, as well as an excellent way to build trust and intimacy.

 

The aim of the Yoni massage is not orgasm nor to bring on a climax. Orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect of the entire ritual. The aim is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this perspective, both receiver and giver can relax, and not worry about achieving something. When orgasm does occur, it’s usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm may or may not happen, depending on what you learn by experience.

In this massage, the giver has nothing to gain; he  just allows the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it would be entirely at the the receiver’s discretion. This perspective will not only build greater intimacy and trust, it will also broaden your own sexual horizons.

STARTING THE PROCESSTake a shower together as it relaxes both the receiver and giver. A quiet space with pleasing music, red candles and fluffy pillows is desirable to make you both relax and feel safe. Allow yourself enough time and never, never rush the process. You can really set the right tone with soft silk mattresses, white curtains, and a dim red light!

Go to the bathroom before the massage. When both bowels and bladder are empty, you can avoid unwelcome bathroom interruptions.  Clean the genitals carefully with a soft soap. And the giver must have his finger nails properly trimmed.

Cuddle with your partner by hugging, holding, and eye gazing to transport you both to a safe place of deep relaxation.



RITUALHave the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage.

The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers’ legs. The giver may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body.

Before making contact with her body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should keep breathing deeply, slowly and focus on mutual relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is critical here. Do not try to control your breath or take extra long pauses between breaths.

Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, and breasts, to allow the receiver to relax and the giver to prepare for touching the Yoni.

Pour a small quantity of  organic massage oil or lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough, so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. Generally, you will find that oils are always the best lubricants.

Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here ; do not rush!  Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time.

The receiver can massage her own breasts or may just relax and continue breathing deeply. The giver and receiver should look into each other’s eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if the pressure, speed, and  depth need to be increased or decreased. Limit your speaking and focus on the profoundly pleasurable sensations. Too much talking tends to get one out of their feelings and diminishes the sensual effects.

Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will become very aroused but continue to encourage her to just relax and breathe.

Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni.   In rituals and Tantra sex,  the  right hand is specifically used for polarity. Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni/vagina with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up/down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this massage is all about nurturing and relaxing the Yoni.

With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a “come hither” gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the Sacred spot as says Tantra Sex. Your partner may feel the need to urinate or it may feel painful or pleasurable. Again vary the pressure, speed and pattern of the movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger You can also insert the finger that’s between your middle finger and pinky. Check with your partner first before inserting two fingers. Most women will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. Use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.

Optional: First, you must ask permission from your partner to insert one lubricated finger gently into her anus. Use the finger which you are not going to insert into her Yoni. Again be very gentle. It’s best to use the little finger in her anus.

Use your left hand to massage the breasts, abdomen, or clitoris,   If you massage the clitoris, it’s best to use your thumb in an up/down motion, with the rest of your hand resting on and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. Do not use your left hand to touch your own genitals because it takes focus off the receiver. Remember, this massage is for her pleasure and the benefit comes from not only the physical stimulation but the intent as well.

Continue massaging, alternating different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and looking into each other’s eyes. Powerful emotions may surface for the receiver and she may even start crying. Just keep deep breathing and be gentle. Many women have suffered sexual abuse and need sexual healing to move forward into happy, healthy relationships. A giving, loving, patient partner is of great value to her.

If she has an orgasm, keep her deep breathing, and continue massaging. More orgasms may occur each gaining in intensity. In Tantra, this is known as “Riding the Wave.” Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with Yoni Massage and a skilled, patient, loving partner.

Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Then, slowly, gently, and with great respect, remove your hands. Allow her to just lay there and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you gradually master Yoni Massage, you will discover that  your own sex life has become greatly enriched.  As a bonus, you will learn a great deal about female sexuality.

Just Practice,  Have Fun, and Follow your Bliss!

 

TANTRIC SEX & EROTIC MASSAGE in Ottawa..for men & women..613 878-8179

THE TANTRIC TOUCH with the incomparable DAKINI BLISS

About me….I am an Ottawa-based Sex educator, Tantra/Sacred Sexuality Teacher, Author, Sexual Healer, Massage Teacher &Couples Counselor, my calling is to help people understand their sexuality and its intimate connection to spirituality.

The good news is that men can become multi-orgasmic.  Indeed, They can enjoy sex for hours without ejaculating.  The implosive orgasm of expansion…feel the excitement, learn to contain it, and allow this energy to dance in your being for longer periods of time.
When the man can ride the waves for longer periods of time, the result is bliss.  He can then have voluntary ejaculation, so he can experience what sex really is…he is more open, and not goal-oriented.  
Surfing is an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where
Surfing is in fact an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone as long as he knows when to cut back in in order to continue th ride. The back side of the wave is like the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you’ve gone over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!
The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone if he knows when to cut back in in order to continue the ride. The back side of the wave is akin to the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you go over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!
YAB YUM


Many positions in the sacred erotic texts; i.e.,  the Kama Sutra & the Ananga Ranga are derived from the postures of hatha yoga.

The Tibetan Yab-Yum position, is the Tantric posture par excellence. Lovers are face to face and heart to heart, able to keep eye contact, kiss and caress the kundalini lovingly up the spine and over the crown of the head. Sitting up is an awake position, versus the association of sleep with lying down. The man’s lingam, the whole energy is vertical. The couple is set for take off to the outer reaches of ecstasy, yet the man can easily control his urge to ejaculate.
Are you intimidated by the vast array of positions or asanas seen in the Eastern erotic picture book? Actually, this wild kingdom of sexual acrobatics reduces to a few  basic yet very stirring poses. The more elaborate postures, given in the books as much for their visual impact as for any practical benefit, are simply variations on a theme.
One key to look for is the pattern of energy flow between the partners at the various points of thrilling electromagnetic contact–eyes, hands, tongues, breasts, soles of the feet and yoni/lingam. Because of the natural “come hither” curve of the lingam, goddess dominant positions tend to stimulate her G Spot more.
Thrusting patterns are the subject of much discussion in the ancient texts. Men tend to think that deeper is better because they see her shiver and moan when they thrust hard. But it’s not that simple. As in art so in life. Variety is the spice.
In practice, keep these 3 things in mind: tease her clitoris with your lingam before you enter. When you enter, stay just inside, just the head of the lingam or a little more. The nature-oriented Taoists likened this strategy to a turtle that sticks his head just a little out of his shell…Turtle Resting. Once you begin to move, don’t just vary by going side to side or in circles. Try three or six or nine shallow, followed by one deep. When you do go all the way, thrusting “to the North Star” as the Taoists say, tighten the anal muscles. It will make the head of your lingam swell. However you do it, this pattern will set up a tough & tender rhythm of shallow, shallow, shallow deep, shallow , shallow, shallow deep.
She will be looking forward to your deep move and may greet you with a vigorous thrust from her own pelvis.