Gross misuses of the term tantric massage abound today as it conjures up a ‘happy-ending’ massage or crass sexual release.
However, the role of massage in Tantra runs much deeper. A massage for mere sexual pleasure is best called an erotic massage, leaving the term tantra massage to encompass another realm of experience and expertise. Continue reading “Tantric Massage Revealed”
Men, I invite you to journey into electric sexual heights as you hover in a profound state of orgasmic bliss.
During Riding the Edge, you will be able to float erotically yet carefree for extended periods, totally pampered at the hands of a beautiful, blonde, experienced, world-class Dakini.
Your sexual energy will tingle and course throughout your entire body, nose to toes, and all parts in between.
Now is the time to discover something better then sex! Continue reading “Riding the Edge: Tantric Male Lingam Massage”
Women, did you know that you can transform any male into your love servant?
After six years of marriage and two children, I would like to become more dominant in the bedroom but my 37-year-old husband won’t submit to me. He claims that it that it would feel weird and unnatural for him to do so. Moreover, he says that he doubts if he would enjoy it. Is there anything I can do or should I just give up the idea?”
Clearly, you have heard about the now infamous novel Fifty Shades of Grey. Perhaps you wonder if BDSM requires a large financial outlay. Yes, leather corsets and horse whips are well worth their price tag but if you’re just getting into it, try BDSM on for size first. The Dark Tantra version is milder and more appropriate for beginners.
Besides, it costs a lot less!
First of all, you and your partner must mutually decide that you are up to trying some BDSM.
Does the notion of being tied up get both of you in a hot, raunchy mood?
Can you almost feel that teasing flogger along your thighs leaving you breathless? Continue reading “Dark Tantra for Couples The Play-at-Home Version”
Western sex practices yield an average of about 10 minutes of bliss, according to a recent study.
Yet, in India and the Far East, Tantric sex is practiced as a form of spirituality, enveloping its practitioners in hours-long ecstasy.
Why not spend a few delicious hours riding the wave, instead of 10 minutes?
Yet, tantra is far more than just drawing out the coitus process.
Studies show couples struggle to reconcile their high sexual expectations with an inability to express their sexual needs.
â€œTantrics go naked, meditate on death next to corpses or in graveyards, or live hidden in the normality of the everyday world, but all the time they use the senses to transcend the senses. Tantra’s contemplative practices are intended to raise a vital energy in the etheric body that is an envelope around the physical body.â€~William Irwin Thompson
The Cosmos is like the sky…clouds come and go, but the sky remains. The cosmos is unchanging. It takes countless forms. To feel disturbed about the numerous clouds in the sky today is nonsensical because whatever is in the sky will change. That’s the nature of the sky. One day it’s clear, the next day it’s cloudy. One day it rains, the next day it snows, the next day the brilliant sun emerges to warm our wounded spirits.
At times, you may experience wonderful changes in your life, as you move into a new home, embrace a career change, marry your beloved, take on a closer relationship with your adult children, give birth to a new business venture, and take positive steps towards healing your body. In the midst of all this, your spirit has been soaring most of the time. However, there are times when even a man who has been practicing tantra can feel bitter or angry, and is easily triggered by those around him, especially by his closest family and friends.
These negative feelings come from old limiting patterns of thoughts and behaviour that you are probably ready to release; however, the letting go proces is painful at times and you can get stuck. When this happens, dancing may be the best remedy. Yes, dancing! Put on some of your favourite instrumental music and let your powerful male body move to the groove and express all those pent-up feelings. Afterwards, pamper yourself with a hot bubble bath, followed by some stretching, resting, and quiet meditation. Then, go and curl up on the couch with that fantastic book you bought last month but have been too busy to read.
This wonderful self-nurturing will refresh and revitalize your body, mind and spirit, so you are ready to move back into your life again. Your male and female energies are fully integrated, so you can better connect to others, enjoy your life, and surmount the daily grind.
The Tantra Bliss Formula was developed by Bodhi Avinasha, Founder of Tantrika International and author of Jewel in the Lotus & The Ipsalu Formula. Bodhi has been teaching Tantric Yoga throughout the world since 1986.
A 5-step Daily Practice, the Tantra Bliss Formula stimulates your creativity, while helping you unite body, mind and spirit. By bringing you to a higher state of consciousness, it helps you transcend illusion and see what is truly real. It takes you from stillness and numbness to a state of Bliss.
1. Activate Your Body’s Energy: To help alleviate the numbness and begin your journey to a state of bliss, the energy of the body must be awakened. Ways of accomplishing this include dancing or doing the Shakti Shake.
2. Still Your Mind: The next step toward a state of bliss is to suspend your thoughts (stop thinking). Meditation, mantras and breathing exercises help you clear your mind of thoughts of the mundane, illusory world.
Ideally, one dims the lights to create a soothing mood.
Ambient Music or nature sounds add a deeply relaxing atmosphere to enhance the whole experience.
Soothing scents can add a beautiful accent to relaxation.
Aromatherapy has proven benefits, so light a scented candle or burn some incense.
Different aromas bring on different physical and mental reactions …peppermint, citrus and cinnamon produce a more energetic response in the body, while patchouli, bergamot, lavender and ylang-ylang are more relaxing.
Just be sure that competing scents are not being used!
Temperature is also important as the skin is exposed most of the time during a massage.
A warmer than normal temperature helps to avoid chills and relax muscles.
Along these same lines, a warm shower or bath before the massage can make one’s massage much more effective by loosening muscles and ligaments.
Use a high-quality organic massage oil. The Body Shoppe carries a number of excellent massage oil products for home use.
Mental preparation is also key…
If possible, try to sit quietly in your Sacred Space and meditate for a bit before the massage session starts.
Clearing the mind helps you focus on breath and sensation, which will intensify the erotic experience.
This is akin to taking a warm shower by shedding your physical tension.
Set an intention for your session and discuss any specific techniques you would like to use.
For a successful outcome, both partners must feel comfortable with each other, and trust in the other’s sincere desire to connect.
A brief discussion before the session is crucial, as well as ongoing, open, honest communication during the session itself.
Tantric Massage is a fabulous gift to give your beloved’s body, mind and spirit.
In addition to the multiple physical benefits, tantric massage can provide a burst of creative energy, stimulating your intellect, deepening your intimacy with your beloved while enhancing your own sensuality.
Spiritual, mental and physical preparation is a key component of Tantra.
The experience is greatly enhanced if you enter the session with an open heart, conscious awareness and an available body. Whether consciously or unconsciously, the preparation begins before your scheduled appointment. You should establish a clear intention for the upcoming Tantric session. Remember that the path of Tantra is spiritual as well as sensual. Tantra explores our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation. The act of setting your intention creates an opening for the session to unfold naturally and in harmony with the physical, erotic and cosmic energies contained within you. You will want to prepare your mind, body and spirit for the experience. For a first-time receiver, the act of opening all parts of your body â€“ including the most sacred areas â€“ to exploration and stimulation is a life-altering experience.
- This is a date with yourself.
- Make space and time for yourself.
- You don’t have to please anyone but yourself.
- Don’t have any preoccupation, appointments close to the session.
- After the session, you may want to relax and may be even sleep.
- Please wear lightly perfumed sprays, colognes, or lotions if you wish.
- No cell phones, no distractions, have your mind free completely of any worries.
- Move with your breath, so sensations and excitement can circulate into the whole body.
NOTE: When you are at the point of experiencing Full Body Orgasm (not ejaculation) – Visualize your desires, what you want to change in your life and what you truly want, such as
- achieving more harmony
- enjoying more love and deeper intimacy
- becoming a multi-orgasmic woman or man
- Having greater overall energy
- Tapping into your Sensual/Spiritual Nature
Then, when you release at that orgasmic moment, your visualizations imprint onto your subconscious and into the universe and it returns back into your reality (Law of Attraction).
Relax and be open!
Simply imagine that you are receiving an infinite love from the universe.
When you are nearing Full Body Orgasm (energetic not ejaculation) always breathe deeply. If anything is blocking your mind, it will go away.
You are in safe, loving, expert hands, so just keep breathing and any built up pressure or discomfort build up will go away.
An intensely pleasurable experience, it is beautiful, erotic and sensuous…all at once.
Close your eyes and feel the inner bliss transporting into an unimaginable world of ecstasy.
To really understand tantra, you need to be turning yourself on. Tantra is something you get for your own self-satisfaction to add to your life, like yoga, meditation or working out. You learn to get in touch with your inner sexuality. You can enjoy exploring some erogenous zones, that you never examined before or maybe were too shy to even think about it.
When practicing G-spot, Prostate healing or Body Energetic Touch, breathe deeply. Let your partner know that you are enjoying the sensations running through your body.
Push your muscles, as in the PC MUSCLE exercises which I teach.
Let go of the flow, release your muscles, clear your mind and enjoy the pleasures of your G-spot or Prostate Healing or Body Energetic Touch.
If you feel discomfort, hold on for a few minutes, after that it is pure ecstasy.
Practice, practice tantra once a week in your life or as often your lifestyle permits. It will change your life; you will feel light, ecstatic and happy. You will see life anew through fresh, loving eyes.
Sex is tricky! You are at your most intimate in that moment. Guys report feeling â€œhotterâ€ because sex is seen as a rite of passage into masculinity. So, they feel like they’ve finally done itâ€¦now they are men! On the other hand, girls may feel uneasy, guilty and even ‘slutty’. This may even unleash self-esteem and body image issues that have been bubbling below the surface for these insecure, young women.
Other Questions Arise…
Had these adolescents been sexually active at all?
What happens if your first sexual encounter is with a same sex partner?
What were the circumstances of the event?
How does someone respond if they lose their virginity LATER in life?
It might be interesting to study the physiological impact sex has over the course of all four years of college, the â€œthenâ€ and â€œnowâ€ of sex and body perspective.
When it comes to actually getting busy, women tend to critically evaluate their bodies in terms of the worshipped feminine ideal. This is called sexual spectatoring, i.e. seeing yourself from the outside rather than focusing on and enjoying the sex you are having in the present moment.
Indeed, society is constantly bombarded with what media and entertainment deem as â€œhot or notâ€ and now women are behind the camera comparing and scrutinizing their own bodies. Negative outcomes exist for boys too; they begin to get riskier and riskier the more sex they have. This could lead to multiple sexual partners and potential STDs.
One way to alleviate such negative outcomes is to develop a sex education class that addresses the nitty-gritty of these issues. Close to 20% of the population struggles with body dysmorphic disorder, so dealing with it earlier is a good idea.
As a woman ages, her body image get better, but sadly a man’s get worse. Tantra is something that makes everyone feel good about themselves and their sex lives. After all,Tantric sex is good for you on all levels…body, mind and spirit.
Tantra Coaching Sessions for Individuals…The practice of Tantra is not strictly for those in a relationship, and the words ‘single’ and ‘happy’ are not mutually exclusive. The ancient Tantrikas spent years in solo preparation to prepare for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine.
There is much that you can learn and open to on your own. Indeed, some things require a time of solitude to blossom and mature, and you can always open to the Divine, which is certainly not a blessing reserved for those in a relationship.
Individual sessions are useful in a variety of ways: Receiving information, learning practices, becoming more at home in your body, finding support to sort through emotions with regard to a recently ended relationship, or learning how to attract a well matched partner.
Individual sessions are also beneficial to persons who are already in a committed relationship but are unable to bring their partner. They can take many useful exercises and insights home with them to their loved one.
What happens in an individual session depends entirely on what an individual needs to progress toward sexual and emotional fulfilment and Divine love. Although I may offer experiential exercises and meditations during these sessions, my approach in working with individuals is not always hands on. The unique needs of my client will always dictate the approach required.
For more information on Tantric Sex Education Classes, call Devi at 613 878-8179.
About me….I am an Ottawa-based Sex educator, Tantra/Sacred Sexuality Teacher, Author, Sexual Healer, Massage Teacher &Couples Counselor, my calling is to help people understand their sexuality and its intimate connection to spirituality.
The good news is that men can become multi-orgasmic. Indeed, They can enjoy sex for hours without ejaculating. The implosive orgasm of expansion…feel the excitement, learn to contain it, and allow this energy to dance in your being for longer periods of time.
When the man can ride the waves for longer periods of time, the result is bliss. He can then have voluntary ejaculation, so he can experience what sex really is…he is more open, and not goal-oriented.
Surfing is an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where
The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone if he knows when to cut back in in order to continue the ride. The back side of the wave is akin to the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you go over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!
Many positions in the sacred erotic texts; i.e., the Kama Sutra & the Ananga Ranga are derived from the postures of hatha yoga.
The Tibetan Yab-Yum position, is the Tantric posture par excellence. Lovers are face to face and heart to heart, able to keep eye contact, kiss and caress the kundalini lovingly up the spine and over the crown of the head. Sitting up is an awake position, versus the association of sleep with lying down. The man’s lingam, the whole energy is vertical. The couple is set for take off to the outer reaches of ecstasy, yet the man can easily control his urge to ejaculate.
Are you intimidated by the vast array of positions or asanas seen in the Eastern erotic picture book? Actually, this wild kingdom of sexual acrobatics reduces to a few basic yet very stirring poses. The more elaborate postures, given in the books as much for their visual impact as for any practical benefit, are simply variations on a theme.
One key to look for is the pattern of energy flow between the partners at the various points of thrilling electromagnetic contact–eyes, hands, tongues, breasts, soles of the feet and yoni/lingam. Because of the natural “come hither” curve of the lingam, goddess dominant positions tend to stimulate her G Spot more.
Thrusting patterns are the subject of much discussion in the ancient texts. Men tend to think that deeper is better because they see her shiver and moan when they thrust hard. But it’s not that simple. As in art so in life. Variety is the spice.
In practice, keep these 3 things in mind: tease her clitoris with your lingam before you enter. When you enter, stay just inside, just the head of the lingam or a little more. The nature-oriented Taoists likened this strategy to a turtle that sticks his head just a little out of his shell…Turtle Resting. Once you begin to move, don’t just vary by going side to side or in circles. Try three or six or nine shallow, followed by one deep. When you do go all the way, thrusting “to the North Star” as the Taoists say, tighten the anal muscles. It will make the head of your lingam swell. However you do it, this pattern will set up a tough & tender rhythm of shallow, shallow, shallow deep, shallow , shallow, shallow deep.
She will be looking forward to your deep move and may greet you with a vigorous thrust from her own pelvis.