Tantric Intimacy Training For Couples

Do your relationships often start with high levels of passion and deeply satisfying sex, but that awesome connection just wanes over time?  While a sexual spark is not the key to a long-term union, it’s the most valuable ingredient for a happy, satisfying life with another person.  Thus, if you feel disconnected sexually, you are likely stressing about what this holds for your future. Can that closeness ever be restored? If not, would either of you wish to hang onto this struggling union?

According to the research into romantic bonds, we can all nurture and grow our sexual connection with our significant others. Five of the best intimacy techniques for couples follow.   While these techniques focus mostly on boosting physical intimacy, they also aim to foster more meaningful emotional and mental connection and help you reconnect sexually with your partner.


Stages Of Intimacy


First, let’s review the five major stages of intimacy through which most couples cycle.

  1. Infatuation: You are obsessed with your partner, can’t get enough of them and feel euphoric. Neurological studies show this phase is similar to a heroin high.
  2. Landing: Here, you start to see your partner as a real human being with flaws. They are finally off the pedestal and you are starting to adjust to sharing your life with them.
  3. Burying: You start to turn your attention outwards again, focusing less on the relationship and more on things like planning, organizing and working out a division of labor.
  4. Resurfacing: You reflect again on just how attractive and appealing your partner is, in spite of the fact they are so imperfect! This can be triggered by any bonding event you experience.
  5. Love: Often said to arrive around the fifth year, you will feel the most happy, secure and calm in this stage.


Intimacy Techniques For Couples

  If you’re struggling with your sex life, visiting a couples counsellor or sexual relationship therapist can be a positive, healthy step to help you abandon old, unproductive ways of interacting.  This is doubly wise if there are also physical barriers to a good sex life.

Yet, many couples really just need more concerted effort to keep an open mind and a genuine commitment to try out new things.


Five Couples Intimacy Exercises to Boost Emotional, Physical And Mental Intimacy

  • Breathing Connection Exercise.  Intimacy in a relationship often begins to slide because life gets so hectic and stressful. This means that you can boost your connection by doing relaxing, calming things that slow you both down. Listening to mindfulness recordings together is great, but there are also more romantic ways to ground and center yourself. In this particular breathing exercise, sit across from your partner and lean your forehead against theirs. Close your eyes, then breathe in and out as slowly and deeply as you can. Most people begin to benefit by the seventh breath, but you should feel free to do as many as you like.  When done with your partner, you naturally feel more connected and in sync because you’re physically aligning and creating a rhythm together. So, it’s hardly surprising that you feel like kissing or holding each other after trying this technique.
  • Soul Gazing.  As much about emotional intimacy as it is about sexual intimacy, the Soul Gazing exercise focuses on the power of looking into another’s eyes. Once again, this technique helps slow your mind and focus your energy on your partner. Do it a few times per week. It may only take five minutes but it can deeply impact how you feel about each other. To soul gaze, sit facing your partner and gaze into their eyes. Consider the old adage “the eyes are the window to the soul.”   Note what you’re picking up from your lover. What are you feeling, remembering or desiring?   What do you think they’re experiencing? You may feel uncomfortable at first but this gets easier, as well as more relaxing and intimate with practice.
  • 15 Minutes of Tenderness.   You can’t recreate a sexual connection overnight, but you can systematically develop habits that maximize your chances of connecting on all levels. The 15 Minutes of Tenderness exercise will help you feel more comfortable with touching your partner and being touched by them. Such experiences can become tense and anxiety-evoking if your sex life is on the rocks.  Sit down together, looking in the same direction.  The optimal positions for this exercise are side by side or standing behind your partner’s chair.  Next, engage in some soft, gentle touch.  Try this exercise focusing on massage, or brushing your partner’s hair/massaging their scalp.  Experiment with different approaches to see which feels the most intimate and satisfying. Do this for your partner then have them do it for you, or leave a gap between sessions.
  • Uninterrupted Listening.  You may think that listening has little to do with connecting sexually with your partner. However, when you don’t feel sexually close it often has much to do with feeling under-appreciated, and we all feel under-appreciated if we feel like nobody is listening to us. Once again, this exercise takes less than 15 minutes per person. It can make you feel like a team again! First, set a timer for 10 minutes. Then, let your partner vent about absolutely anything they want to. Listen carefully, so as to take it all in. Don’t interrupt unless there is an emergency! Then, when your partner finishes speaking, reflect back what you have heard by paraphrasing your partner’s main points. How amazing it feels to just validate and be supportive! Next, set the timer again and have your turn talking before listening to the proof of your partner’s attentiveness.
  • Conscious Sensuality.  When you consider bringing back intimacy into a marriage, you may believe that if it isn’t spontaneous, then it isn’t authentic. On the contrary, your efforts must be conscious at first, as you’ve likely outgrown the habit of being sexually connected. Conscious sensuality is a tantric practice that works wonders for physical intimacy.  Take five minutes to gaze into each other’s eyes and breathe deeply. Next, spend five minutes touching and caressing your partner’s limbs, neck and torso before letting them do the same to you for another five minutes. Then, take another five minutes to kiss each other.  Focus solely on what it feels like without trying to progress to more overtly sexual interactions. You can if you like, but you can also agree to limit this exercise to kissing until you feel more comfortable.


Self-Hypnosis For Boosting Sexual Pleasure. An array of different psychological and interpersonal reasons can cause lack of sexual desire, and your subconscious mind’s wiring is pivotal when it comes to increasing pleasure.

De-armouring and You

Your armour is a result of blockages created by trauma, tension, faulty
thought patterns and different life experiences. This armor can hinder your
life force from flowing by hardening and desensitizing your physical body.
These pent up emotions can also cloud judgment and make it more difficult
for you to navigate through life’s stormy waters.

De-armouring is also a deep practice to liberation, as in a path of
enlightenment. Basically, you will learn to meet yourself in both pain and
pleasure. Yes, pleasure is just as tough to process as pain. The more we
practice release, the deeper we can connect to our joy, intuition and
vitality. These experiences tend to be so nurturing that we would all
rather face all challenges to live more freely and purposefully.

Thus, you can free yourself from belittling thought patterns,
cultural/social programming, family genetics and religious beliefs. All
matters that armor and chain you to status quo keep you playing small,
controlled by fear and survival. Now, we live in privileged times so our
reptile brain does not need to protect us in the same way as it did 10,000
years ago. Its primal instinct that runs the show. Now, you want to upgrade
to version 2.0 and take control over your life and enjoy the best possible
relationship with yourself and others.

Simply, de-armouring is a way to open up and release this armor that
hinders you from being in healthy alignment so that you can exercise
control over your life.

*What happens in a session. *A de-armouring session can be compared to a
trigger point massage, where deep pressure is put on various points on the
body to release physical, emotional and mental tensions. The points are
external as well as internal, but internal work is only done if or when you
are comfortable with it. Each session is unique, and together we will find
the best possible support for your release and opening.

A session always starts with a consultation, wherein we co-design what will
work best for you. Whether it be sexual awakening, trauma healing, boundary
training, spiritual awakening, soul retrieval or tantric practices, I will
intuitively guide you to delve as deep as possible.

Know that your boundaries will be fully respected at all times and that you
are in highly skilled hands.

*What body parts can be de-armoured?* In short, every part as both body and
mind are potent trigger points. Emotional repression works such as its
stored anywhere where the body chose to store it in the moment of
happening, trauma or tension.

All beings benefit from both external and internal de-armouring. Men can
store a lot of fear and shame in the anus. Women can store a whole range of
emotions in their vagina, cervix and womb, from unwanted sex (even the
slightest compromise before coitus can create armor), as well as abortions,
rape, abuse, birth control devices.

Lastly, many experience deep healing simply through having their genitals
touched with pure, loving intention and presence. De-armouring can happen
just by being held, unconditionally loved, accepted beyond doing,
performing or giving. This is a highly transformative, life-changing

The Fine Art of Aging Gracefully in a Youth-Oriented Culture

Many baby boomers spend much time and money trying to reverse the imminent signs of aging and rid themselves of pain, in a bid to stay healthy.
Those in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s pay the biggest price, admitting to a self-inflicted abusive lifestyle in their teens and 20’s.

A reckless youth, eating carelessly, sleeping as little or as much as possible, drinking and smoking whatever one could find, plus the enduring stress of college, making ends meet and then raising a family directly impact quality of life in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond.

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SLOW Tantric Lovemaking Rituals For Couples

Do you wish to boost your stamina, gain self-confidence and transform into the alpha male lover? Simple, proven slow sex tricks can turbocharge your sex life. A slow sex practice can revitalize intimacy and enhance the sexual pleasure of both partners while reducing your respective susceptibility to the stress and strain of daily life. In the digital era, more data is at your fingertips than ever before, thus you can become stuck living in your head, increasingly disconnected from your body and  sexuality.

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Tantra for the Novice

Tantra was a spiritual movement originating in northern India in the 9th and 12th centuries. In the West,Tantra is associated with sex, which is but one small aspect of Tantric wisdom. Tantra involves harnessing that divine spark felt during sex, harnessing it and transmuting it into all aspects of your life. In tantra, we set regular intentions and practice on a daily basis.

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Libido-Boosting Natural Foods for Men That Rival Viagra

As a tantric sex educator, I realize that many men fail to grasp what the drug Viagra actually does. Many men believe that it will boost libido, which is not always the case. Rather than causing a man to become sexually aroused, Viagra only works if he is sexually aroused. Studying the mechanics of the male erection is the sole way to understand how Viagra works.

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The Art and Soul of Orgasmic Kissing Secrets

In The Kama Sutra, a woman’s mouth perfectly mirrors her genitalia; i.e., the lips resemble the labia, the Cupid’s bow resemble the clitoris and the hard palate just above the front teeth resemble the G-spot.

When a man slowly caresses his female lover’s mouth with deep, passionate kisses, not only will he be rewarded with increased arousal but he may actually awaken her full orgasmic potential.  Continue reading “The Art and Soul of Orgasmic Kissing Secrets”

Tantra Massage & Sexual Healing Sessions with Dakini Devi Bliss

Joy, pleasure and orgasmic bliss can be challenging to find in our bodies, yet we can all experience these natural states of being.

My Divine Tantric Touch sessions facilitate your journey into your physical being so as discover a new relationship to touch, intimacy and sensation while being safely held in sacred space with clear boundaries and compassion.


These sessions are for women, men or couples of all ages and gender orientations.

For more information, visit my contact page

To schedule an appointment, email me at thetantrictouch@gmail.com or call me directly at (613) 878-8179.

In light and love, 

Dakini Devi Bliss

The Happy Sex Guru

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7 Natural Testosterone-Boosting Techniques to Counter Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS)

How can you tell if the man in your life has IMS?

Ask him, “Can you please pass the salt,” to which he replies, “Take, take, take…that’s all you ever do!”

Men, have you been feeling too busy, tired or distracted to engage in sexual relations with your parțner? Does your sex drive these days seem much lower than before? 

Testosterone is not responsible for libido alone. In women, desire stems from a far more complicated set of hormonal and emotional interactions. But for men, while testosterone is not the whole story, it does play a lead role and the modern lifestyle may be your T’s nemesis.

Clinician and author Jed Diamond identified a new syndrome called Irritable Male Syndrome  (IMS) that relates to testosterone deficiency. Going beyond low libido, IMS also includes anxiety, emotional withdrawal, lack of motivation, aggression and personality changes. Extremely self-destructive behaviours like gambling, alcoholism and workaholism can also be present.

If this resonates with you, know that you are not alone. Low testosterone affects at least 18 million men, with a significant number of those being men in their thirties.

The impact of low T is not just low sex drive or even mood issues. Testosterone deficiency leads to higher rates of cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, and bone fractures, projected to cost upward of $500 billion in the United States in the next 20 years.

Low testosterone also elevates a man’s chance of early death. One study tracked 800 men for 50 years and showed that the group with the lowest testosterone levels had a 33% greater chance of death from all causes than the group with the highest testosterone levels. Meanwhile, other studies consistently showed that men with testosterone deficiency had substantially higher mortality levels than those with normal testosterone.

  • Where do you stand when it comes to T? 
  • Are you experiencing IMS symptoms in the form of weight gain, fatigue, muscle loss, male pattern baldness or changes in libido?

If so, visit your primary care physician for testing so as to identify the root cause of the problem.

Hormone replacement is an option for some men but if you follow these seven steps, you may be able to naturally rehabilitate your testosterone levels, sex drive and other related T-deficiency symptoms. 

1. Stay Fit And Trim. Belly fat and obesity are testosterone killers. One study showed that obese male teenagers have up to 50% less testosterone than their non-obese peers. This may be due to the fact that fat cells contain more aromatase (enzyme that converts testosterone to estrogen).

Sadly, obesity and low testosterone reinforce each other, fuelling weight gain and hormone imbalance in men; however, reversing the spiral is also mutually reinforcing.

2. Get Eight Hours of Regular Sleep.  One study showed that after only one week of just five hours of sleep nightly, testosterone levels dropped 10-15%. Surviving on only a few hours may sound macho but it actually depletes your most vital male hormone.

3. Avoid testicle-harming toxins. Phthalates and parabens in personal care products (lotions and shaving creams) and BPA in plastic bottles and store receipts are anti-androgens, meaning they disrupt the production and function of multiple hormones, including testosterone.

Therefore, clean out your bathroom cabinet, use stainless-steel reusable water bottles, and refuse store receipts to avoid these chemicals.

4. Learn How to Deeply Relax. Stress is a major driver of low T. Ultimately your adrenal hormones, thyroid hormones and sex hormones are all interconnected in an awesome but highly complex dance. A stress-driven phenomenon called “cortisol steal” can induce a hormone imbalance wherein the production of testosterone is decreased in favor of cortisol. Stress also increases the production of aromatase and 5-alpha-reductase, two enzymes that break down testosterone.  For at least 10 minutes daily, relax and breathe, meditate, do yoga or otherwise boost your parasympathetic nervous system. In so doing, your hormone system has a chance to reboot and rebalance, thereby lowering cortisol and boosting testosterone. Explore an on-line Mindfulness training program to help you alleviate stress and ultimately enhance your T levels.

5. Avoid Statins and Eat More Fish Oil. Studies show that Statin drugs negatively impact mitochondria, the energy powerhouses of your metabolism, as well as lower free and total testosterone. This is most likely because cholesterol is the building block of all your steroid hormones: cholesterol becomes DHEA, which in turn becomes testosterone.

Eating more fish oil will reduce inflammation (inflammation lowers testosterone) and also support the production of healthy cholesterol, the ultimate building block for T. In addition, fish oil also lowers sex-hormone binding globulin, the protein that ferries testosterone around the body, so that more testosterone is free and available.

6. Get Into A Daily Vitamin Supplementation Habit.  Vitamins A and E, and minerals zinc and selenium are like fertilizer for androgen production and testicular function. In the developed world, much of our food tends to be low or totally missing these crucial micronutrients. Supplements are the ideal way to guarantee that you are ingesting more of these critical nutrients.  At the same time, you can eat more shellfish for zinc and selenium, carrots and kale for vitamin A, along with almonds. along with pumpkin and sunflower seeds for vitamin E.

7. Get More Sun!  The male reproductive tract is a target for vitamin D, and studies show that vitamin D supplementation can boost total testosterone, bioavailable testosterone and free testosterone. In North America, an epidemic of vitamin D deficiency has been occurring for some time. Men, if you are unsure of your T levels, visit your physician and ask for a simple blood test. As well as supplements, strive to get 15 minutes of direct sunshine daily!

I am Dakini Devi Bliss, a Certified Tantric Teacher Sacred Intimate, Blissful Bodyworker and Certified Bondassage® practitioner.  A lifelong spiritual seeker, I have been formally trained in energetic aura manipulation, hypnosis, Kundalini awakening, Tantric healing, massage therapy, Reiki and Dark Tantra.  In my multi-disciplined approach, I manipulate sexual energy for the highest good. With a background in tantra, kundalini yoga, meditation, qi gong, energy work, sexual psychology and relationship coaching, I am also a certified Bondassage® and Elysium practitioner.  I employ a unique, rich healing blend for each client.  My tantra training initiation was a lengthy process extending over several years, including studies in India, to gain the requisite experience to instruct others.  My spiritually-based practice is ideal for those who wish to embrace a higher, enlightened state and use tantra to create kundalini awakening and a deeper connection to their partner(s). I possess a nurturing, joyful nature with a peaceful warrior mindset.


4-Part Simple Meditation Technique

15_01_2017 - 1Learning how to meditate helps you achieve personal and professional success faster. With a clear, focused mind, and calm, relaxed body, you can access internal and external information to help you make wiser decisions. Moreover, the more you meditate, the more access you have to your intuition. 

In many diverse cultures, many different forms of meditation have been developed over thousands of years. Meditation is a practice where you train your mind or induce a state of consciousness, to realize some benefit like relaxation, stress reduction, healing, strengthening your life force, or develop higher qualities like love, patience, generosity and forgiveness. By focusing on breathing, visualizations, mantras or meditation music, you bring mindfulness to the present moment, which sets the stage to calm your mind.

Meditation can also be used to access wisdom and insight from your own higher unconscious or Universal power often known as The Goddess, Universal Consciousness or Source.  Continue reading “4-Part Simple Meditation Technique”

A Portal Into Ecstasy and Transcendence: The Amazing Yoni


In Sanskrit, the meaning of the word “Yoni” is Sacred Place, referring to the female genitalia. Apparently, the word Yoni has come into vogue as 21st-century women are learning to reclaim their feminine spirit through sexual self-empowerment. Yes, simply achieving the same status as males in the workplace is just not enough for today’s woman.

A new dawn has emerged where women are openly and freely embracing their Goddess birthright.  The modern woman is finally grasping the ancient secrets of discovering heaven on earth through her divine physique.

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colorful-lovers-xxxIn a Tantra Massage for Couples session, both partners are able to relax and savour a tantric massage at the same time. Two massage tables are set up, while myself and an expert dakini-in-training prepare to you both a delicious massage at the same time.

Commonly, couples fantasize about engaging in erotic play with someone outside the relationship. However, realizing that particular fantasy in a safe, enjoyable way for both partners can be a bit tricky, especially if it’s your first time. 

A Tantric massage for Couples is an ideal way to test these choppy waters without risking any unpleasant surprises. Indeed, your confidential session will be totally safe and respectful of your mutually agreed upon boundaries 

A tantric massage brings together many somatic learning and healing practices into one exquisite session. Owning and communicating your desire, feeling good about your body, playfully practicing techniques for sexual energy mastery, and surrendering to powerful flows of orgasmic energy are interwoven during your session. This tantric massage experience is all about you and  your partner. Continue reading “TANTRIC MASSAGE FOR COUPLES SESSION”

Radical Tantric Self-Transformation Training to Boost Self-Esteem

Do overwhelming feelings of never being good enough continually plague you? If so, these destructive feelings typically manifest in in the following ways
  • Competence.  The feeling that you’re “never good enough” at some skill or ability, like earning money, being perfect or some other talent you “should” have mastered  by now.
  • Body. The feeling that your body appearance has failed you . Do you feel that you’re not thin, strong, tall or attractive enough? Do you feel physically unpresentable to others, in the bedroom or the boardroom?
  • Identity.  The feeling that you’re simply the wrong kind of person in terms of your race,  age,  gender or personality. For instance, do you feel too old or too quiet?
  • Relationship.  The feeling that “I will be loved only if I am _____.” This qualifier could be based on your outward success (competence), body appearance (body),  willingness to change who you are (identity) or something else. Do you feel that you will only merit love if you fulfil some other condition? Does just being your authentic self feel insufficient to receive love?

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The Power of Mantra for Millennials


The Power of Mantra for Millennials 

Mantras spring from from your mind’s murky depths, then blossom into the purity of being, akin to how the beautiful lotus is birthed in mud, 
Across the millennia, mantras have been used around the globe to still the mind, promote inner peace and foster various virtues and support peak spiritual experiences.
Mantras, although simple words and sounds repeated over and over again, are immensely powerful in their ability to raise our consciousness. Not only are words and sounds a manifestation of energy vibrating at different frequencies, but they are also imbued with centuries of meaning. Indeed, some ancient mantras and chants are well over 3,000 years.

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The Four Frustrating Faces of Anorgasmia


Fall out from Anorgasmia: Physical soreness, emotional irritation, frustration, lack of sex drive, resentment, blame, shame, guilt, anger and frustration with or from your partner. The lack of communication results in loss of intimacy, and decreased self-esteem, feeling less of a man or woman, diminished sexual confidence and the list goes on.
Anorgasmia is defined as a sexual dysfunction wherein one fails to achieve orgasm. In men, the condition relates to premature or delayed ejaculation.Meanwhile, female anorgasmia is far more widespread and a major cause of sexual frustration. 

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The Art and Soul of Yoni Massage

Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina loosely translated as “sacred space” or “Sacred Temple.” In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect, which is vital for modern men to learn.

yoni artistic

Before starting the Yoni Massage, create a space for the female receiver in which to relax, from which she can more easily enter a state of high arousal and experience great pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) will experience the joy of giving pleasure and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni Massage is also a form of safe sex and ideal activity to build trust and intimacy. Some tantric therapists help women break through sexual blocks or trauma via yoni massage Continue reading “The Art and Soul of Yoni Massage”

Tantric/Taoist Techniques to Open The Autobahn to Enlightenment!  


Sense your freedom as you gaze inward, grasping your emptiness. 
Sense your love as you gaze outward, grasping your fullness.
The unfolding dance of Creation embodies infinite freedom and eternal love.
Awakening and energizing the Central Channel was foundational to all ancient forms of Spirituality.  At times, this process would occur as a side effect of related intense spiritual ritual; however,  knowing gurus would usually impart one or more direct tools to promote the opening of this centre most bioenergetic pathway.   In Tantric Yoga,  the central column or Sushumna Nadi is comprised of at least four increasingly narrow columnar layers (Vajra Nadi, Chitti Nadi and Brahma Nadi all within the larger Sushumna). In Esoteric Taoism, the central channel is called Chong Mai or Tai-Ji Pole. Continue reading “Tantric/Taoist Techniques to Open The Autobahn to Enlightenment!  “

Tantric Massage Revealed

Lord Shiva & Shakti shown to user
Gross misuses of the term tantric massage abound today as it conjures up a ‘happy-ending’ massage or crass sexual release.
However, the role of massage in Tantra runs much deeper. A massage for mere sexual pleasure is best called an erotic massage, leaving the term tantra massage to encompass another realm of experience and expertise. Continue reading “Tantric Massage Revealed”