The word “intimacy” arises all the time when it comes to  marriage and relationships.    So, what’s  intimacy?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, intimacy is “something of a personal or private nature.”
Essentially, intimacy involves taking the risk to be close to someone and allowing that person to step inside your personal boundaries.

The dictionary definition is weak. Better intimacy means “in to me you see”, a  play on the word which really deciphers the meaning.    You are allowing someone to look inside you to know the real you.   Making the authentic you available for someone to know is a huge risk. 

Intimacy means connecting with someone on every level; physical, emotional and spiritual. Physically, when we become intimate with someone there is some touch involved depending on the relationship we have with the person. Emotionally, our decision to be intimate with someone becomes a connection of our minds and our hearts. We share the stuff of who we are and find that we are stronger for it. Spiritually, as we connect to another person by uniting hearts, that part of intimacy is marvelously intense.
There is a connection with people on all three levels…physical, emotional and spiritual…once we become intimate with them, once we trust them enough to let them into our personal boundaries.

So how does all this relate to marital intimacy? Why is intimacy with your spouse important?  
If a husband and wife have walls of mistrust, deception, a lack of forgiveness, and bitterness that keep them from allowing one another into their real presence they can not develop a deep intimacy. Their hurt may not even be toward their spouse, but if they have walls up to protect themselves from people getting close to them, it will damage their relationship with their spouse.
Intimacy is vital in marriage because it is the only way to receive the full blessings of a committed union.  Ideally, marriage is an intensely wonderful, lifelong journey filled with passion and deep connection.  This union can provide us with the most amazing human relationship imaginable, but it would be impossible without a willingness to pursue intimacy.
Intimacy is risky, especially at the beginning, but it gets easier over the years if you are committed to it. The more you do it, the more you see if your spouse can be trusted with your heart. And then, the more you deem as  trustworthy, the more you are likely to continue sharing yourself with them.

Your commitment to intimacy is challenged when you have opened yourself up to your spouse and they have been deceitful. That’s when we ask, “Is intimacy  worth the cost when I get so badly hurt?”   Now if you married someone who has hurt you is it worth the work to push through the pain and come outon the other side. Many couples have worked through tough issues like infidelity and others could not. It really depends on the level of deceptionand the intent of the unfaithful partner.  It’s a long, hard process, but it is possible with the right conditions.  If the cheating partner is remorseless, just count your losses and make a graceful exit.  If you have found yourself in such a situation, grace be upon you  as you walk through this bitter season.
Overall though, intimacy between a committed sex partners has the greatest potential for a relationship that is deeply life-giving. Intimacy is worth the effort, worth the risk, worth the vulnerability. Intimacy is just one of the ingredients that make a marriage phenomenal.

Tantric intimacy is the most empowering way to manifest the ultimate relationship.  You experience your partner in a way where you both are deeply connecting with the God Source within yourselves.  Through Tantra, you are touching the highest loving presence that is fully connected to the entire Universe!

“The vision of Tantra is a direct approach towards God, towards Reality, towards that which is.  It has no mediators, no middle man.  Tantra says, God can ONLY be approached directly.  There is no other way… God is immediacy.   God is here now, already surrounding you.”  ~Osho
 Why explore TANTRA?

1.   To Discover the Infinite Divine Being within your partner and yourself
2.   To Explore a higher conscious state of connection with each other
3.   To Feel unlimited acceptance and love with your partner
 4.   To Learn to communicate and listen fully with LOVE
5.   To Discover how to create safety in letting yourself feel
6.   To Experience a Kundalini rising in a Tantric Intimacy connection
7.   To Create an unconditionally intimate loving relationship

Tantric Intimacy is a whole new way of being in the world. It is a safer way of living on Earth, with your partner in unity that creates a feeling of whole-ness, trust and tenderness. This is extremely contagious and causes all your relationships to develop and deepen in the most loving ways. 
The fear of intimacy is what causes all of our relationships to struggle and suffer.  Once you learn a few simple techniques, ancient knowledge and secrets to creating intimacy, you will easily be able to manifest successful loving relationships with anyone you desire.
Why is Intimacy so important?   Intimacy allows us to love life deeply.  Yet many are deeply afraid to be seen, heard and acknowledged in this world.  Intimacy melts all fear and frees you from the judgments of others.   It liberates you completely from your constricted, restricted, contracted self.
Tantra is the highest path to spiritual awakening.
Intimacy happens when we  allow the other to see into us (into-me-you-see = intimacy).  Shifting into this thinking starts you on the path, creating experiences of letting go of ego-protection-control and receiving what we all desire yet often pretend we don’t need…LOVE.
Most Western people were conditioned to behave in a strong, tough manner when you needed a hug.  We were unconsciously taught to be colder and not to “need” an emotionally intimate connection.  Intimacy channels all the warmth and connection you’ll ever need.  It is a personal mirror and deeper connection with The Universal Source.  The more we open to others, the farther we can look and see our true self.
Through ancient techniques in Tantra, you learn how to master your mind, body and emotions in life. You will then be able to create the profound connection and spiritual partnership you’ve always craved.
 There is NO limit how juicy your relationships can become!

If you are alone, or just feel alone, you may just be repressing intimacy.  If you don’t have a partner, you can manifest one.  Our session teach you how attract him/her into your life quickly!  Make the decision that you are manifesting your ideal mate!  The Tantric path will be the new container.

To learn how to practice sacred Tantric techniques in the bedroom, 
call me…613 878-8179
Experience a relationship coaching session and take your love life to the next level.

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THE TANTRIC TOUCH with the incomparable DAKINI BLISS

About me….I am an Ottawa-based Sex educator, Tantra/Sacred Sexuality Teacher, Author, Sexual Healer, Massage Teacher &Couples Counselor, my calling is to help people understand their sexuality and its intimate connection to spirituality.

The good news is that men can become multi-orgasmic.  Indeed, They can enjoy sex for hours without ejaculating.  The implosive orgasm of expansion…feel the excitement, learn to contain it, and allow this energy to dance in your being for longer periods of time.
When the man can ride the waves for longer periods of time, the result is bliss.  He can then have voluntary ejaculation, so he can experience what sex really is…he is more open, and not goal-oriented.  
Surfing is an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where
Surfing is in fact an apt analogy for the extended orgasmic experience for men. It takes more than a surfer, his board, and the ocean for the thrill of surfing to occur. The essence of the surfing experience is to be able to catch a wave of energy and to stay right at the edge of the steepest part of the wave without going over the top or out the bottom. The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone as long as he knows when to cut back in in order to continue th ride. The back side of the wave is like the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you’ve gone over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!
The technique involves skillful negotiation of the “lip”, the part of the wave where the energy is most intense.
If the surfer goes too far away from the energy in either direction, his ride is over. In front of the wave the water is calm. The momentum from the steeper part can carry a surfer out into this zone if he knows when to cut back in in order to continue the ride. The back side of the wave is akin to the post-ejaculatory refractory phase for men. Once you go over the top, the ride is over.- And for men that means waiting hours for the next possible wave!

Many positions in the sacred erotic texts; i.e.,  the Kama Sutra & the Ananga Ranga are derived from the postures of hatha yoga.

The Tibetan Yab-Yum position, is the Tantric posture par excellence. Lovers are face to face and heart to heart, able to keep eye contact, kiss and caress the kundalini lovingly up the spine and over the crown of the head. Sitting up is an awake position, versus the association of sleep with lying down. The man’s lingam, the whole energy is vertical. The couple is set for take off to the outer reaches of ecstasy, yet the man can easily control his urge to ejaculate.
Are you intimidated by the vast array of positions or asanas seen in the Eastern erotic picture book? Actually, this wild kingdom of sexual acrobatics reduces to a few  basic yet very stirring poses. The more elaborate postures, given in the books as much for their visual impact as for any practical benefit, are simply variations on a theme.
One key to look for is the pattern of energy flow between the partners at the various points of thrilling electromagnetic contact–eyes, hands, tongues, breasts, soles of the feet and yoni/lingam. Because of the natural “come hither” curve of the lingam, goddess dominant positions tend to stimulate her G Spot more.
Thrusting patterns are the subject of much discussion in the ancient texts. Men tend to think that deeper is better because they see her shiver and moan when they thrust hard. But it’s not that simple. As in art so in life. Variety is the spice.
In practice, keep these 3 things in mind: tease her clitoris with your lingam before you enter. When you enter, stay just inside, just the head of the lingam or a little more. The nature-oriented Taoists likened this strategy to a turtle that sticks his head just a little out of his shell…Turtle Resting. Once you begin to move, don’t just vary by going side to side or in circles. Try three or six or nine shallow, followed by one deep. When you do go all the way, thrusting “to the North Star” as the Taoists say, tighten the anal muscles. It will make the head of your lingam swell. However you do it, this pattern will set up a tough & tender rhythm of shallow, shallow, shallow deep, shallow , shallow, shallow deep.
She will be looking forward to your deep move and may greet you with a vigorous thrust from her own pelvis.

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The Tantric massage will make you feel as if in a trance, as physical boundaries dissolve, time disappears, problems no longer matter, or are forgotten altogether.

We begin by having you recline on your back with pillows under your head and a towel covered pillow supporting your hips. Your legs will be slightly apart, your knees just a little bent. Your abdomen, thighs, feet, toes, chest, nipples and fingers are then gently massaged with warm aromatic oil. Nothing will escape attention. Your energy flow is stimulated and senses awakened as your body’s sensitivity increases. According to Tantric ideals, your entire body will be massaged, including those particularly sensitive areas. Perceptions of sensuality and lust are located here, but these “intimate” areas are an important source of joy in life.
You will feel relaxed, yet wide awake. You will be coached to breathe properly, as you sink into yet deeper level of relaxation. In this very loving ceremony you will be completely nurtured and pampered in the arms of your goddess, giving you a feeling of comfort and sense of well-being.     www.whitelotuseast.com/Tantra.htm

What is Tantra & why follow Tantric sexual practices…emotional, spiritual, healing
What is tantra?   As a result of  media hype, many  believe that tantra is a collection of sexual techniques to heighten pleasure. Actually, tantra is much more than that. It is an entire philosophy for living that helps you integrate your physical reality with your spirituality so you can experience bliss on Earth. It is a path of inner union and ultimately union with divine. Inner union occurs when you unite the divine male (Shiva) and female (Shakti) energies within yourself.
What are the benefits of practicing tantra?   
There are many.  The greatest is the awakening of an inner joy that you may have never known was there. You can open your heart to yourself at a deep level and make changes in your life that are aligned with your heart’s desires. In addition, by gaining mastery of your sexual energy, you manifest loving and fulfilling relationships, expand your capacity for spiritual ecstasy, and improve your health and vitality.
What is the Purpose of tantric sexual practices?  
Tantric sexual practices involve heightening sexual energy so that it can be utilized for spiritual growth and healing. They help you embrace the divine nature of your sexual energy and learn to flow it to the upper energy centers of your body, particularly your heart. When you do that, your sexual energy becomes a vehicle for the expression of love. In lovemaking there is an emphasis on igniting the woman’s shakti (female sexual energy) which is seen as the creative doorway to the divine and therefore a sacred gift to men. When this happens a powerful circuitry of energy occurs which increases the vibration of love between partners.

Is emotional healing work necessary to practice true tantra?
Yes, we must clear the path in the body; i.e., healing emotional wounds stored in your cellular memory. With my guidance , you can dissolve barriers that limit you and find a whole new level of freedom in your body and mind. In addition, because we live in a patriarchal world, most people experience disharmony between those male and female aspects of their psyche. Healing work can promote the integration of these parts of yourself, which is key to manifesting healthy  relationships.
What is Tantric Sex? 
Tantric Sex transforms the sex act into sacred lovemaking  & spiritual union.  

Tantric sex is meditative, spontaneous and intimate lovemaking. You learn to prolong the act of making love and to focus on, rather than dispel, potent orgasmic energies moving through you.  This raises the level of your consciousness. Tantra transports sexuality from just doing to actually being. There is no end goal in Tantric sex, only the present moment of an ideal, harmonious union. Tantra teaches you to worship your sexual partner and to transform the act of sex into a sacrament of love. Lovemaking between two partners, when entered with awareness, can be a gateway to sexual and spiritual ecstasy alike. Tantric sex attempts to awaken powerful psychic energies within through which we can enter into higher states of consciousness.

Links Tantra / Tantric Sex
Philosophy of Kundalini – Discussion of the Philosophy and Metaphysics ofKundalini, the divine / cosmic energy that lies within every human being. When Kundalini is awakened, we experience our true nature, Self as Universe.
Philosophy – Kama Sutra – ‘Praised be the three aims of life, virtue (dharma), prosperity (artha), and love (kama), which are the subject of this work.’ Kama Sutra (Kamasutra, Karma Sutra, Kama Shastra). Discussion and Quotes / Quotations, Pictures, Sex Positions from Famous Indian Sexual Philosophy of the Kama Sutra.
Govinda, Lama – Tantric Buddhist Lama Govinda Correctly Realised the Importance of Space (Akasa) and Motion (Prana) as the Foundations of Eastern Philosophy and Dynamic Interconnection of Brahman.
Buddha Buddhism Religion Nirvana – Wave Structure of Matter explains Nirvana(Truth) Karma (Interconnection).

Philosophy Pantheism – According to Spinoza, God, Nature and Reality are One and the Same. All is God, All is One, All is Space and Motion.
Philosophy of Taoism – In Ancient Chinese Philosophy, One Thing (Tao) must Exist to Connect the Many Things.

Philosophy of Tantra / Tantric Sex Links
http://newfrontier.com/tantra/ – Cosmic Love. Tantra embraces the natural energies and connects you with cosmic, universal energy. It is becoming one with the other, and the very cosmos itself. (Swami Nostradamus Virato). 
http://www.tantra.com/ – Resource for Tantra, Tantric Sex & The Kama Sutra
http://www.kundalini-tantra.com/ – Philosophy of Kundalini Tantra.
Our connection with the universe is not the same as that of a radio station to the receiving radio. We are an intelligent signal which both sends and receives. Thus, the Cosmos is not just in contact with us, we are also in contact with the Cosmos. Not only does our signal find its way into all the universe but all the universe finds its way into our signal. Open up to those signals and all the universe is available to each of us.
http://www.tantra-sex.com/map.html – 4 Freedoms Tantra Sacred Loving Spiritual Sex Directory. 
http://www.luckymojo.com/sacredsex.html – Sacred Sex, Tantra, Tantric Sex, Kareeza. 
2 Lama Anagarika Govinda, The Foundations of Tibetan Mysticism, Mandala Books 1969
6 http://www.transformnow.com/enter/tantra.html


When did you last honor yourself by taking time out to release your stresses and indulge your desires? 

Do you feel frustrated, unappreciated or craving sensual touch? Come and experience pleasure and play with authentic Tantra massage in OTTAWA! 

I have combined my passion for touch with years of training in various therapeutic, and sensual modalities to provide the most healing, erotic, and playful Tantric Touch Massage Experience.

My blonde hair, silky skin, crystal blue eyes, and mesmerizing smile will put you at ease as soon as we meet. My yoga-flexible body moves confidently and sexually.  

My serene studio is a space of positive energy, tantalizing massage, and erotic bliss. My heartfelt intention is to make you feel comfortable and relaxed.  Our time together will be a non-rushed,  intimate encounter. Let me lead your body and soul to a higher state of joy and ecstasy that is within yourself. Put yourself in my capable hands, open yourself to pleasure,  and allow yourself to be TOTALLY pampered by a sweet, kind, gifted goddess.

My sincere desire is to share my joy, knowledge, and sensual compassion to keep my clients coming back for more. 

Together, we will ride the waves to Tantric Bliss.

I look forward to our connecting.

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THE TANTRIC TOUCH…Body-to-Body Worship…a sensual journey & healing treatment. 
After they returned from wars, Roman soldiers would visit sacred Temples to visit High Priestesses of the sacred orders. There they would be spiritually healed, emotionally nurtured and sexually soothed. Before Chris, e many such temples were found in the East – Babylonia, Nineveh, Corinth, and throughout India.
Tantric Health Benefits
The Shakti worshipping her lord of the universe is a one-to-one treatment. My intention is to build Shiva’s sexual energy. The stronger the energy, the higher the vibration level, which promotes full body cleansing and balancing . The hormones and endorphins released can cure headaches, back pain and more…the best self healing known to mankind. It is Our Shakti preparing and leading our Shiva into ORGASMIC BLISS. 
The Sacred Urban Sanctuary
You will be met at the door by your Goddess and led straight into your sacred space to take a shower.  Then you will be invited to sit opposite your Shaki and chat.  The session starts with a small ritual to acknowledge you are entering the sacred time.  You will then learn breath work to help relax and clear your mind.  Once you feel clear,  you will reach a state of deep presence.  You will experience an intense connection to your sensual nature.
The Treatment   
Now relaxed your Shakti will lead you to my massage altar where I will  work on your body to buildi your sexual arousal by heightening and teasing your senses.  Your Shaki starts by using very light, long and gentle sweeping strokes stimulating the skins little receptors….the healing art of touch, skin on skin, breath, sound, many different feathers, silk, hot oil.  Once the oil anoints your skin, I will use slow, dance-like, sensual strokes of adoration.  
Taoist /Tantric Endings
If you booked 90 minute, this Tantric Practitioner will be able to teach you some simple tantric techniques on learning ejaculation control.
If you have any sexual dysfunction, discuss this with me at the begining of the treatment.  This will allow me to pass on my  knowledge to you.  You will learn much to improve your sexual health and together we can make a plan for your healing journey.
I will provide an overview on the Tantric/Taoist technique.  For full training, you will need more sessions so that we practice everything thoroughly.
After…You will have time to rest, slowly sit up, take a shower and leave looking as immaculate as you arrived balanced and refreshed.

Tantra Breathing to Prolong Sexual Intercourse

Mastering Sex & Tantra

In Kundalini Tantra Yoga we don’t try to suppress or sublimate sexual energy, instead we look to raise its vibration so that our sexual charge can be used to nourish our higher centers (chakras).  

There are many Kundlaini Tantra Yoga Kriyas (sets), breathing exercises and meditations to help raise and channel our sexual energies.  Here we will explore the closely related school of Sexual Tantra ...applying Kundalini Tantra Yoga to sex itself.
In this variation of Kundalini Tantra Yoga, the sex act not only arouses but also intensifies one’s sexual excitement in order to reach heightened states of eroticism.  Importantly, sex is used to reach and experience altered states of consciousness.
Of all the prerequisites for practicing Sexual Tantra, the following are vital:

1.  Loving Partner:  Most important for the practice of this branch of Tantra is to have a loving, understanding, interested partner.  Sexual Tantra is not just about having sex, but you may end up doing that!    It also explores communion between the male (Shiva) & female (Shakti) manifestations in order to reverse genesis.  In other words, from One there came many (in this case 2) and in Sexual Tantra, via sex, Shiva & Shakti merge so the many return to One. 
2. Sexual Control:  If you want to delve deeply into Sexual Tantra, you must learn to master your sexual passions.  This article addresses how the male partner can master his ejaculatory response during sexual intercourse.
Tantric Breathing Technique to Prolong Sexual Intercourse:
The following technique is a variation of Kapalbhati Pranayama and it is simple yet very effective.
During sexual intercourse, as excitement peaks for the male and he approaches orgasm he should do Kapalbhati Pranayama through the mouth.  Specifically, he should puff air out of his mouth while pulling in the stomach muscle sharply with each exhalation.  As in Kapalbhati, allow the stomach to relax for the recoil inhalation to take place. This rapid puffing out of air through the mouth changes the blood chemistry and will retard ejaculation by easing the blood supply to the male sexual organ.
Like any skill, practice makes perfect!  But I suspect you won’t mind practicing this one so much.