Four Tantric Sex Tips to Maximize your Pleasure!

During Tantric sex, you want to channel all the beautiful sexual energy that would normally escape during an orgasm, back into your body. It gives you so much divine energy.

Indeed, achieving the big “O” is NOT Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus soley on the finish line, you’ll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest of the show offers. Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health.  Through our intimate connection with another, our stress hormones lower and our serotonin skyrockets.

Keep Your Eyes Open...Making love with your eyes open is fundamental to a deep intimate connection.  But It’s harder to do than you might expect. Try to to move toward this idea as an intention.  You will be amazed at how the collection of glimpses reshape your thoughts and feelings about both your partner and yourself. It is not always easy to be seen, even by the people we love. Truly witnessing the act of love is profoundly transformative.

Take it Slow…Foreplay is absolutely essential in Tantra. A SLOW, leisurely build helps men control ejaculation and piques women’s arousal. The longer you both linger in this delicious process of building energy, the longer your session will last, the more energy you will build, and the more satisfying your full body orgasm will be.   Use this time wisely to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.

Design a Sacred Space for Lovemaking and Intimacy…This should be a comfortable area that is both playful and relaxing. Make sure to clear the room of any and all clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is key to our sensuality, so natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose are ideal. Your bed should be as comfortable as possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, choose a soundtrack of relaxing instrumental music (no lyrics) that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your mood.

Breathe Each Other’s Breath…Harmonizing your breath is a simple way to get in sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (the yab-yom position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you are able to share your entire being with your partner. Becoming conscious about your breath is vital in all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra.

Osho, Tantra…a way of Indulgence?

NO…IT IS NOT. It is the ONLY way to get out of indulgence. It is the only way to get out of sexuality.    No other way has ever been helpful for man; all other ways have made us more and more sexual. Sex has not disappeared.   Religions have made it only more poisoned. It is still there… in a poisoned form.  Guilt has arisen in man, but sex has not disappeared.   It CANNOT disappear; it’s a biological reality. It is existential; it cannot simply disappear by repressing it. It can disappear only when you become so alien that you can release the energy encapsulated in sexuality…not by repression is the energy released, but by understanding.

And once the energy is released, out of the mud the lotus…. The lotus has to come UP out of the mud, it has to go higher, and repression takes it deeper into the mud. It goes on repressing it. What you have done up to now, the whole humanity, is repressing sex in the mud of the unconscious. Go on repressing it, sit on top of it; don’t allow it to move; kill it by fasting, by discipline, by going to a cave in the Himalayas, by moving to a monastery where a woman is not allowed. There are monasteries where a woman has never entered for hundreds of years; there are monasteries where only nuns have lived and a man has never entered. These are ways of repressing. AND they create more and more sexuality and more and more dreams of indulgence. 

No, Tantra is not a way of indulgence. It is the only way of freedom. Tantra says: Whatsoever is has to be understood and through understanding changes occur of their own accord. So listening to me or listening to Saraha, don’t start thinking that Saraha is supporting your indulgence. You will be in bad shape if you accept that.

Listen to this story: An elderly gent named Martin went to a doctor for an examination. ”I want you to tell me what’s wrong, doctor. I feel some pains here and there, and I can’t understand it. I’ve lived a very clean life – no smoking, drinking or running around. I’m in bed, alone, at nine o’clock every night. Why should I feel this way?””How old are you?” asked the doctor.”I’ll be seventy-four on my next birthday,” said Martin.The doctor answered, ”After all, you’re getting on in years, you’ve got to expect things like that. But you’ve lots of time left yet. Just take it easy, and don’t worry. I suggest you go to Hot Springs.”
So Martin went to Hot Springs. There he met another gent who looked so old and decrepit that Martin felt encouraged by the comparison. ”Brother,” says Martin, ”you sure must have taken good care of yourself, living to such a ripe old age. I’ve lived a quiet, clean life, but not like you, I’ll bet. What is your formula for obtaining a ripe old age like you have reached?”
So this shriveled old guy says, ”On the contrary, sir. When I was seventeen my father told me,’Son, you go and enjoy life. Eat, drink and be merry to your heart’s content. Live life to the fullest. Instead of marrying one woman, be a bachelor and have ten. Spend your money for fun, for yourself, instead of on a wife and kids.’ Yeah: wine, women and song, life lived to the full. That’s been my policy all my life, brother!”

”Sounds like you got something,” said Martin. ”How old are you’?”The other answered, ”Twenty-four.”

Indulgence is suicidal – as suicidal as repression. These are the two extremes that Buddha says to avoid. One extreme is repression, the other extreme is indulgence. Just be in the middle; neither be repressive, nor be indulgent. Just be in the middle, watchful, alert, aware. It is your life! Neither does it have to be repressed, nor does it have to be wasted – it has to be understood. It is your life – take care of it! love it! befriend it! If you can befriend your life, it will reveal many mysteries to you, it will take you to the very door of God.

But Tantra is not indulgence at all. The repressive people have always thought that Tantra is indulgence; their minds are so much obsessed. For example: a man who goes to a monastery and lives there without ever seeing a woman, how can he believe that Saraha is not indulging when he lives with a woman? Not only lives but practises strange things: sitting before the woman naked, the woman is naked, and he goes on watching the woman; or even while making love to the woman he goes on watching.
Now, you cannot watch his watching; you can see only that he is making love to a woman. And if you are repressive, your whole repressed sexuality will bubble up. You must start going mad! And you will project all that you have repressed in yourself on Saraha – and Saraha is not doing anything like that; he is moving in a totally different dimension. He is not really interested in the body: he wants to see what this sexuality is; he wants to see what this appeal of orgasm is; he wants to see what exactly orgasm is; he wants to be meditative in that peak moment, so that he can find the clue and the key… maybe there is the key to open the door of the Divine.

In fact, it is there. God has hidden the key in your sexuality. On the one hand, through your sex, life survives; that is only partial use of your sex energy. On another hand, if you move with full awareness in your sex energy, you will find that you have come across a key that can help you to enter into eternal life. One small aspect of sex is that your children will live. The other aspect, a higher aspect, is that you can live in eternity. Sex energy is life energy.

Ordinarily we don’t move further than the porch, we never go into the palace.  Saraha is trying to go into the palace. Now, the people who came to the king, they must have been suppressed people as all people are suppressed. The politician and the priest HAVE to teach suppression,. because it is only through suppression that people are driven insane. And you can rule insane people more easily than sane people. And when people are insane in their sex energy, they start moving in other directions – money they will start moving towards, or power, or prestige. They have to show their sex energy somewhere or other; it is boiling there – they have to release it in some way or other. So money-madness or power-addiction, they become their releases.

This whole society is sex-obsessed. If sexual obsession disappears from the world, people will not be money mad. Who will bother about money? And people will not be bothered by power. Nobody will like to become a president or a prime minister – for what?! Life is so beautiful in its ordinariness, so superb in its ordinariness, why should one want to become somebody? By being nobody it is so delicious – nothing is missing. But if you destroy people’s sexuality and make them repressed, so much is missing that they are always hankering: somewhere there must be joy – here it is missing.

Sex is one of the activities given by nature and God in which you are thrown again and again to the present moment. Ordinarily you are never in the present …except when you are making love, and then for a few seconds only. Tantra says one has to understand sex, to decode sex. If sex is so vital that life comes out of it, then there must be something more to it. That something more is the key towards Divinity, towards God.

Osho…”The Tantra Vision, Vol 1″

Hinduism 101

Hindu theology defines 14 worlds (not planets) – 7 higher worlds (heavens) and 7 lower ones (underworlds). The earth is the lowest of the 7 higher worlds. The higher worlds are the 7 vyahrtis, viz. bhu, bhuvas, svar, mahas, janas, tapas, and satya (the world  ruled by Brahma); and the lower ones (the “seven undreworlds” or paatalas) are atala, vitala, sutala, rasaataala, talatala, mahaatala, paatala.

All the worlds except the earth are temporary places of stay as follows: upon one’s death on earth, the god of death ( ‘Yama Dharma Raajaa’ – Yama, the lord of justice) tallies the person’s good/bad deeds  on earth and deems if the soul goes to a heaven and/or a hell, for how long, and in what capacity. Some say good and bad deeds neutralize each other and the soul is so born in either a heaven or a hell, but not both,.  According to another school of thought, good and bad deeds don’t cancel out each other. In either case, the soul acquires a body as appropriate to the worlds it enters. At the end of the soul’s time in those worlds, it returns to the earth (reborn as a life form on the earth). It is considered that only from the earth, and only after a human life, can the soul reach supreme salvation, the state free from the cycle of birth and death, a state of absolute and eternal bliss.

DeitiesThere are many deities in Hinduism.  Trimurti: Shiva (the destroyer), Vishnu (the protector), and Brahma (the creator), and their wives (goddesses in their own right): Shakti (also known as Paarvathi, Ambika) the goddess of courage and power, Lakshmi the goddess of all wealth, and Saraswati the goddess of learning. The children of the Trimurti are also devas, such as Ganesha and Skanda or Kartikaya.
Brahma is the ruler of the highest of the heavens (the world called Sathya), so in one sense, Brahma is not beyond the 14 worlds as Shiva and Vishnu are.
Some gods are associated with specific elements or functions: Indra (the god of thunder and lightning; he also rules the world of Swarga), Varuna (the god of the oceans), Agni (the god of fire), Kubera (the treasurer of the gods), Surya (the sun god), Vayu (the god of wind), and Soma (the moon god).
Swarga also has a set of famous heavenly dancers: Urvasi, Menaka, Rambha, and Tilottama (all female), whose job is to entertain the heavenly court, and upon orders from the heavenly kings, to distract people on the earth from accumulating too many good deeds so as to become a threat to the heavenly kings.
Other notable inhabitants of the heavens …celestial sages, and Narada the messenger of the gods.
Yama (the god of death and justice)  lives in Kailash along with Shiva. He rules the lower world of Naraka with a band of emissaries called the Yama doota (messengers of Yama), who bring the souls of dead persons to Yama for evaluation. Chitragupta is one of those lower level celestial beings who functions as the karmic accountant of all the actions of the human beings on earth.

Incarnations…The 10 avatars of Vishnu, …Matsya, Kurma, Varaha, Vamana, Krishna, Kalki, Buddha, Parshurama, Rama and Narasimha

Several gods are believed to have had incarnations (avatars). As the protector of life, one of the duties of Vishnu is to appear on the earth whenever a firm hand is required to set things right. The epic Bhagavatha Purana is the chronology of Vishnu’s ten major incarnations (there are in total 26 incarnations): Matsya (fish), Kurma (turtle), Varaha (boar), Narasimha (lion-faced human), Vamana (an ascetic in the form of a midget), Parasurama (a militant Brahmin), Rama, Krishna, Gautam Buddha(later buddhists separated themselves from Hindus), Kalki (a predicted warrior on a white horse who would come in this yuga ) whose appearance also signals the beginning of the end of the epoch.

House of IkshvakuIkshvaku was the son of Manu,the first mortal man, and founder of the Sun Dynasty. (Suryavansham)

Bharatavarsha...The first king to conquer all of the world was Bharata, son of Dushyanta and Shakuntala. All of this world, Vishwa, is named Bharatavarsha, or The Land of Bharata, or The Cherished Land.
King Bharata’s conquests stretched over all of modern India, and Pakistan, Bangladesh and Nepal, as well as the ancient Gandhara region of Afghanistan